Husband Asks If He's The A**hole For Saying Walking Their Dog Is A Chore
Time is one of the biggest things you have to be willing to commit when you get a dog because your pet will need a lot of that. They'll need you to walk them, play with them, bathe them, clean up their mess, feed them, and so much more things so they could live a long and happy life.
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Even when just meeting their bare minimum needs, you need time. That's why when a couple or a family gets a dog, there's usually an agreement on dividing dog duties which are only right.
Because no matter how you see it and no matter how much you love your dog, parts of taking care of them are chores. They're a responsibility you need to do.
Unfortunately, some people have jobs that don't offer them much time at home. And sometimes, they have no choice but to work that job because of the pay it gives.
In these cases, it can be pretty much a dilemma just as in the case of Redditor Much-Advertising4243. He works 70+ with virtually no day off and he still tries to do his house duties but his wife thinks he's not doing enough for the house.
Now, she told him that he needed to walk the dog more but he mentioned that it was a household chore and something he couldn't attend to. And it has led to a full argument.
Here's the whole story.
OP asks:
OP's wife thinks he's not pulling his weight around the house
It has long been an issue but OP can't see how he can improve given that if he works less, they might not be able to afford the house they live in
OP feels that his wife isn't taking his schedule into consideration at all
Now, she's asking him to walk the dog more and when he tried to refuse, she blew up
Working 70+ hours a week is almost the entire week and just a few hours of sleep in between. That's a full schedule and it's difficult to see where the husband can even find that extra few minutes to take the dog out.
It's not like he doesn't try to contribute as much as he can as well to the housework. It's just that he simply doesn't have the time and we think the energy to add more to his plate.
Many people in the comments section also agree. Some even say that if the wife wants him to contribute more at home, she should accept him working fewer hours and making less.
Here are the top comments.
1. OP's points are right but he needs a lifestyle change before he gets burned out
2. If she wants him to help out more at home, she should accept him working less hours and making less money
3. OP is already spending all his extra time for his family as it is
4. If you love someone, you'd want to make their life easier
5. She should also understand that him working 70+ hours a weak is no easy feat and will have consequences for him
6. They might both be burnt out from their family roles and may need a mediator to be able to come up with a solution to it
7. They should look into other solutions rather than just him helping out more
8. She might be too frustrated to even notice how she's acting out
9. Her hours are really very little compared to his
10. Maybe the wife needs to reevaluate her attitude towards things at home
11. Looking for other solutions than just giving ultimatums would be great
12. It seems that they're both trying to do their best for their parts but they're just both burnt out from it
13. There's more to it than just waking the dog
14. Maybe switching places would to the trick
15. Some people think maybe the wife should step up more
16. A fair division of labor
17. Other factors might also be contributing to the stress in their marriage
Being in their situation can be pretty hard, especially since they're both trying to keep their home afloat in different ways. One is taking care of the finances while the other is taking care of the home.
As some of the comments have said, it might be that they're both getting burnt out from their roles in the household which might be causing frustrations and stress. Hopefully, they do get counseling so they could talk through it with a neutral party intervening.
And we hope this will give them the solutions or compromises they need to do to ease their tensions and live a happier and healthier life together.