Redditor's Sister Offers Free Accommodation, But It Ends With An Overpaid Stay And Insults To His Pregnant Wife
Everything in this world revolves around respect, especially in large and extended families. If boundaries are not respected, disagreements can easily arise and damage the relationships for a lifetime.
Recently, a Reddit user explained how not respecting others' boundaries had damaged his relationship with his closest family. The OP explained he and his wife bought a home two weeks ago.
They planned a move-in date, but unexpected delays with the current tenants postponed their transition. As their lease expired and the delay was short-term, the OP's sister offered them to stay at her place, highlighting the cost savings and convenience of using her guest room.
They accepted, expecting to stay at their home for just a couple of weeks. Yet, an unexpected incident might initiate their early departure.
In these two weeks, the OP and his wife spent an extraordinary amount on groceries, nearly $900, without his sister contributing financially to the food expenses. This situation might have been tolerable, except that the OP's brother-in-law (BIL) has been excessively feeding his and the OP's dog with the food they bought, including expensive food like a $60 steak.
The OP told him multiple times to stop, but BIL persisted, blatantly wasting food by over-serving himself to feed the leftovers to the dogs. The OP's wife, who is 23 weeks pregnant, has been increasingly frustrated with BIL disregarding their boundaries.
So, her tolerance reached its limit when BIL fed their dog an expensive breakfast pizza in front of them. In response, she began packing all the food they bought into bags, loudly forbidding BIL from touching it.
BIL called her actions irrational, but the OP supported his wife's stance. The OP's sister started crying because of the unnecessary conflict.
But now, the OP's sister accuses him of being inconsiderate by defending his wife's outburst.
OP asks:
The OP explained his sister offered them rent-free accommodation for a couple of weeks, and they accepted:
But, during that time, the OP and his wife spent an enormous sum of money on food:
And it wouldn't even be such a big deal if his BIL didn't feed their dogs with expensive food they have bought:
They told the BIL, numerous times, to stop feeding dogs, but he didn't listen:
So, the OP's pregnant wife's tolerance reached its limit:
The OP supported his wife, but the BIL called her a psycho, and the OP's sister told him he was in the wrong:
A Redditor told him he was not in the wrong
One Redditor advised the OP to find another place to stay
BIL was wasting their money unnecessarily
"It's a really big wasteful deal on someone else's dime"
"Your sister doesn't want confrontation and will let her husband do just about anything so she can avoid it"
"He's doing it in front of them to passive-aggressively tell them he's not happy with the situation."
Redditors told the OP that it's for the best to find another place to stay until their new home is ready to move in. They think that his sister didn't even ask her husband if they could accommodate the OP and his pregnant wife for a couple of weeks.
Therefore, the BIL was openly showing passive-aggressive behavior, indirectly telling them to leave.
