A Young Woman Asks If Lying Is A Red Flag After Witnessing Her Boyfriend Steal From A Dental Clinic
If a cashier mistakenly gives you $50 more than what your change is supposed to be, would you return it or keep the money? What if she runs after you to retrieve the excess, will you sheepishly give the money back or deny she gave an incorrect amount of change?
This woman's boyfriend chose to do the wrong thing and she can't stop thinking about it. OP's boyfriend recently had some dental trays done — they are tools a person can use to apply teeth whiteners.
He lost his old ones and went to a new dental clinic for the service. He told OP that when he picked up the new trays, the receptionist handed him the items without asking for his payment.
He accepted the dental trays knowing that he hasn't paid for them. The receptionist called him not long after to ask him to come back to the clinic to pay for the trays or pay over the phone.
Without missing a beat, he lied and said he already paid before picking up the trays and it was their fault for not keeping a record of the transaction. He wasn't ashamed at all when he recounted this to OP and said this mistake was entirely the receptionist's fault.
OP witnessed him lie further when he got a phone call from the clinic's manager asking about the previous conversation with their receptionist
OP was bothered by how easily he lied. He didn't care that the receptionist can get in real trouble or lose her job. He wasn't losing cash over this since he would have had to pay anyway but he still lied.
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After he hung up, OP told him she was uncomfortable with his deception. She also said he was a bad person for doing so when he knows the receptionist just made an honest mistake.
He has been giving OP the silent treatment since that exchange. He tried to justify what he did by saying other people would do the same in his shoes. Should OP apologize to him?
It's easier to excuse your awful behavior when you're convinced everyone is just as bad as you are
OP's boyfriend probably believes the receptionist deserves to be punished because she was stupid enough to make this mistake
The way he treated and talked to the receptionist is indicative of his personality and morals
When there is one red flag, the next one is not that far off
He has somehow convinced himself that he's the wronged party. What goes on in this guy's brain?
OP's boyfriend is a thief and the dentist's office has paperwork to prove it
OP is a sage. He has definitely lied about other things.
OP has a choice to continue dating this thief or leave his sorry ass
OP said she will call the dentist's office to tell them what she knows and then reconsider the future of their relationship
Others said there is nothing to reconsider because what he did would be a deal-breaker to them.
This is OP's first serious relationship and she hasn't quite established what her non-negotiables are. This will be a good lesson for that.
It looks like OP has a lot to think about and Redditors are more than willing to help her start
He knew someone will be affected by his deception and he still thinks he's the victim? OP needs to dump him and tell on him.
Lucky for us, OP is not a Pinocchio and did post an update after a week
OP spoke to the manager and told him everything she knows. He said a demand letter was already on the way and if OP's boyfriend fails to pay, they will take him to court. OP did find another lie of his.
He has been cheating on her with a co-worker
OP broke up with him and blocked him on everything
He showed up at OP's house, begging her to stay with him. OP was hurt but she didn't fall for his tears.
Some people were questioning why OP kept the PS5 she gave him for his birthday
She said if the situation was reverse and she cheated on him but kept the engagement ring, people would tell the guy to get the ring back
OP learned a difficult lesson with her relationship with this lying thief. It's undeniable that a rude awakening like this is painful but it's good that OP figured out who he really is this early in their relationship.
Choose your partners carefully, people. And don't ignore red flags, because things are not going to get better.
