Boyfriend Abandons Pregnant Girlfriend, Shows Up 5 Months After The Birth, And Then Blames His GF For Not Trying Hard Enough To Inform Him The Baby Passed Away
Do you owe your absentee boyfriend anything after he vanished during your pregnancy? You shouldn't have to try so hard to convince him that the pregnancy he talked you into is also his responsibility.
A Redditor and her boyfriend have been together for four years when they found out she is pregnant. OP wasn't on board with having a kid just yet because it would affect a promotion she's been working hard to get.
She and her boyfriend, Lewis, talked about the pregnancy and what it meant for them. Eventually, they both agreed to move forward in this new chapter of their relationship.
All was going well until OP's 20th week of pregnancy. They had just found out the gender of their baby when Lewis suddenly disappeared.
OP had no way of contacting him. Her voicemails and messages to him were left unanswered.
OP messaged Lewis's mom in the end. She told OP that Lewis moved back home because he was too overwhelmed by the pregnancy.
He paid his share of the rent and other utilities but didn't talk to OP at all. OP even tried to see him at his mom's house, but he didn't bother to see her.
Around the 27th week of her pregnancy, OP gave up the prospect of talking to Lewis. She realized she has to ready herself as a single mom and plan for that future with her baby.
She thought she had Braxton Hicks contractions during her 31st week of pregnancy
u/throwaway-itriedA few days later, her water broke and she went into labor
u/throwaway-itriedHer baby was born early and died less than a week later due to complications
u/throwaway-itriedShe and her family tried to reach out to Lewis and his family before and after the baby's funeral to no avail. About 5 months after the baby's passing, Lewis showed up at OP's house.
u/throwaway-itriedHe got mad that her house was not set up for a newborn and demanded to see the child. OP told him everything and he stormed off. His family has been calling and messaging OP vile things because she "didn't try hard enough" to inform him of what happened.
u/throwaway-itriedOP is not the a**hole no matter which way you slice the situation
cryinoverwangxianA responsible soon-to-be-parent will not have hidden in the first place
Saerisse
OP should have sent him a singing telegram every time there was an update about her pregnancy
BlueLanternKitty
Lewis does not deserve to be anybody's dad
EmiIIien
What if he knew what happened to their baby and showed up just in time to act like the aggrieved party
WillBsGirl
His anger was all just for show to absolve himself from all the blame of being a neglectful partner and parent
apothekryptic
OP's parents even helped just to reach out to Lewis and his parents, but even they were unsuccessful in contacting him
calliatom
Lewis lost his standing in OP's life the moment he abandoned her and their baby
Vivid-Rent7730
If his name is not on the lease, that should qualify as trespassing, right?
babcock27
He didn't even bother to show up right around OP's scheduled due date, he showed up 5 months after the baby's birth
Psycosilly
OP stressing about Lewis vanishing like a bubble couldn't have helped her health during the pregnancy
Foxyfumbles
He is quite possibly the most entitled father-to-be posted in the subreddit
Direct-Light1879
The fact that he egged his family on to harass OP after what she already went through solidified how monstrous he is
Direct-Light1879
He deliberately showed up around the time that the baby was supposed to be more calm. Jerk on all counts.
overly-underfocused
OP saw the outpouring love and support from internet strangers and realized she did nothing wrong
u/throwaway-itried
She is doing her best to move forward with the help of her therapist
u/throwaway-itried
OP should never let Lewis or his family know where she is moving to. They will not stop harassing her.
OP was not the a**hole at all. Lewis is such a reprehensible person that we only need to think of him whenever we doubt our self-worth.
What do you think?
