Woman Turns To Reddit To Validate Her Actions, Ends Up Starting A Heated Debate About Kids At Breweries

"It would have been nice of her to mention that they had kids with them."

Kylin

• Published in Funny
• May 29, 2023

In today's fast-paced and hectic world, finding moments of respite and connection with friends has become increasingly valuable. For some, establishing a regular tradition can become a cherished part of their social lives.

These gatherings can offer an opportunity to unwind, share laughter, and create lasting memories. However, what happens when the established norms clash with unexpected circumstances?

Picture this: friends ranging in age from their 30s to 40s eagerly anticipate their weekly meet-up. This group enjoys engaging in friendly competition through games like Cards Against Humanity, Uno, and Trivial Pursuit while enjoying the selection at whatever brewery they picked that week.

All being parents, they have established a tradition of adult-only evenings, where babysitters are arranged to ensure uninterrupted adult conversations and leisure. These Friday nights serve as a valuable escape from the demands of parenthood and offer an opportunity for the group to reconnect on a deeper level.

An unexpected situation unfolded during their most recent night out when a woman approached a part of the group. She asked if her group could share the adjacent large picnic-style table, to which they agreed, unaware of the surprise that awaited them.

Frustration arose when it became clear that the new group had several young, rambunctious children in tow. A conflict of perspectives and an uncomfortable confrontation ensued, dividing the group. 

Redditor Remarkable_Lime5843 shared her story with Reddit's r/AITA community for outside judgment on the situation. Keep scrolling to read the full story and some surprisingly divisive responses that debated the appropriateness of bringing children to a brewery.

OP explains that their group meets once a week at various breweries for some adult-only time

A much needed reprieve from parenting, I'm sure

This outing was at a brewery that was a lengthy drive for half the group

OP and her husband arriving first and saved a table for their group outside

While waiting for their friends, they were approached by another woman who asked if their group could use the adjacent table

To OP's surprise, the woman returned with her partner and two small children

To their dismay, the rest of their group also had children with them

OP confronted the woman and told her it was not cool that she didn't mention their entire group had small children

After her confrontation, the group with the children moved tables, but OP's husband accused her of being out of line

OP updated her post after receiving a lot of the same questions

She claims that they would have moved had they known, and that the group moved before they had a chance

And that being a parent herself, she felt the conversations and games they were going to play would not be appropriate for little ears

Cards Against Humanity is definitely not a kid-friendly game, either

Some Redditors feel that any public place runs the chance of children existing

While others feel that a brewery is an inappropriate place for children

It was a reasonable expectation that the group was only going to be adults

There is hardly any time "calling out" is done in a way that's not rude

Things would be better if folks would just mind themselves and let live

It was rude to "call out" the group for having children

There is *always* a respectful way to communicate

Why didn't the group with kids pick any of the other open tables?

Just like adults, children are also people who exist in the world

OP didn't have unreasonable expectations, but she could have addressed it better

Both parties failed to respectfully communicate

The situation was poorly handled by everyone

Are breweries that much different from bars?

Just as OP couldn't know about the group, they also wouldn't have known anything about OP's

Both sides made this into a much bigger deal than necessary

The group was inconsiderate for not mentioning the children

There's most definitely a significant divide in who thinks kids shouldn't be allowed at a brewery

The other woman could have easily mentioned they had children in their group

The incident at the brewery sparked a thought-provoking discussion among Redditors, highlighting the evolving dynamics of social gatherings. While differing opinions emerged, it serves as a reminder that clear communication and understanding are essential to maintain harmony within such groups.

Do you feel that OP handled the situation poorly, or was she justified? Let us know your thoughts in the comments section below. 

Kylin