Dad Concerned About His Children Being Around Their Mother Who Is Currently Struggling With Drugs

It's completely normal to feel this way if this was your dynamic and relationship.

Daphnie

• Published in Interesting
• September 27, 2023

We're back again today with yet another Reddit post and this time it's from the relationship advice thread, which is one we've been looking into recently. These relationship advice threads are perfect for if you're looking to get unbiased advice from people who don't know you at all or anything in order to get the best response on the situation.

These thread posts can be about anyone from those in romantic relationships to roommates, friends, or even family relationships. With this all being said, we are going to dive into a post today that is submitted by a man who is not sure how to handle this situation with his kid's mother.

Essentially she is struggling with a drug problem right now and is often around her kids under the influence. He isn't sure how to approach it because obviously he doesn't want to tell his kids the truth but also he's worried that other people notice and that the kids will notice as well.

This really does sound like a pretty sad situation to be in and people in the comments were pretty helpful and felt sorry that he had to deal with this situation and everyone is giving him all the good vibes. He seems to be in the right headspace to handle this and it's definitely a situation where he seems to want the best for his kids.

OP's post was actually really short and just gave us the details on what his ex has been doling and how he's worried about how it'll affect the children.

Lots of people told OP that they should look into other resources to help him out with dealing with this because it is hard and can take a huge toll on him by himself.

Others told OP to go ahead and try to establish custody over the kids because this will probably be the only way that he can consistently ensure their safety.

We learned a bit more about their agreement here where he said that she is able to see them but usually they are all together when she does see them.

The mom will need all the support she can get in order to get better for her babies, but really if she doesn't see a problem then she may never get help for it.

Many people suggest for him to switch up their agreement and not allow her to see them unsupervised if she's going through this.

A lot of us thought the same but honestly we're not sure if it even matters in this situation because either way, they should be sober with their kids.

Some people weren't sure how to take this and they definitely weren't exactly on OP's side fully but it seems like he's pretty set in his opinion on this.

He gives us more info on their custody agreement but it doesn't seem like she wants much to do with the kids though.

We're super sad that OP even had to go through something like this because we know dealing with drugs can be extremely difficult, especially when kids are involved. However, it looks like OP got some pretty good advice on the situation and basically told him that he needs to get some help in order to deal with this properly.

Daphnie