Entitled Mom Calls Her Cousin Selfish And Tells Him To Get Rid Of His Cat After He Refused To Babysit Her Five Children For Free
Insulting someone to coerce them into doing you a favor never works. A Redditor's cousin definitely tried when she wanted him to babysit for free.
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OP and his fiancé own a house together. OP works from home while his fiancé works with his dad.
OP's fiancé travels a lot for work, which gives OP a lot of alone time at home. OP typically ends his workday mid-afternoon and spends the rest of his day doing his hobbies.
His cousin, who just recently gave birth to her fifth baby, takes advantage of OP's free time. She frequently drops off her kids at OP's house for him to babysit.
She tells him that he will never know the struggle of being a parent. OP tries to say no, but his cousin and her husband know how to guilt him just enough to reel him in.
OP is not a confrontational person, which his fiancé is trying to help him overcome. He got OP a cat named Ariel to help with his anxiety and recover from losing their dog the year prior.
When OP's fiancé left this time around, his cousin showed up at his front door with her five kids. She was about to leave her children when she saw Ariel.
She said two of her kids are allergic to cats. She demanded that OP get rid of Ariel so he can safely babysit her children.
OP finally had enough of his entitled cousin, said no, and promptly shut the door to her face
Her cousin yelled at first but eventually left. She bombarded OP with vile messages and called him a selfish a**hole who doesn't understand parenthood.
She said parents do not get enough peace and OP took their opportunity away. She reiterated her demand to be rid of Ariel.
OP had to block her after she called him a slur. His cousin's parents took their daughter's war cry and repeatedly harassed OP for being selfish.
OP felt bad for his nieces and nephews, but it about time that he put up some boundaries. Was he too harsh in his delivery?
That's a good way to strengthen that shiny new backbone OP grew
This is the way
OP is in this position because he allowed them to abuse his kindness just that one time. They learned that if they play to his emotions, they can get whatever they want from him.
Loving your nieces and nephews does not mean they become your responsibility unless you allow that to happen
She doesn't even leave packed food for her kids or give OP some cash for him to buy them food? OP is a lot kinder than most or may more gullible.
If she knew how much work her children are, why add another one? She felt confident because OP is just a knock away from babysitting her kids for her.
OP should really get another cat just for good measure
Bold of them to accuse OP of being selfish when they're the ones popping out kids they can't handle
If aunt and uncle have the time to yell at OP, then they have the time to babysit their grandchildren
Anyone who tries to guilt OP into babysitting his cousin's kids should be the first person to volunteer to take his place. After all, that's what family does.
OP should learn how to manage his guilt when none of what's happening is his fault. His cousin received enough help from him, it's time for those benefits to go to someone who deserves them — his cat, Ariel.