Redditor Tells Cousin's Fiancee That He Doesn't Want Any More Children, Feels Bad When They Broke Up

"Yeah I think that was it, we dont want kids immediately"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• March 19, 2023

It's acceptable to not want children. If you want to remain childless for the rest of your life, that's fine; there's nothing wrong with you.

It's also acceptable to be unsure of your desire to have children. But one thing is certain: Making your choice will not be aided by feeling compelled to comply with everyone else's wishes or by fretting over them.

The fact is that you can find happiness regardless of your decision. There are so many reasons for why it's acceptable to not want to have children, even though every person's path is very unique as not everyone likes children. 

However, a common assumption is that once people settle down, they will begin having children. Some even assert that those who say they do not want children will eventually change their minds, particularly ladies.

In today's story, it's actually the man who didn't want kids. The OP shared that their cousin, Brandon, who has a child with special needs from a previous relationship, is dating a woman named Emma.

At a family reunion, Emma disclosed to the OP that she would like to have a child and that she wished to have more, but because of the condition of Brandon's son, he only wants to have one more kid and that's it. One thing led to another, and they broke up, with the OP feeling guilty about it. 

The Story Begins

Time passed by and the OP's cousin and then girlfriend got engaged

The OP misunderstood granny, or granny misunderstood Brandon, or brandon lied to grandma to avoid pressure

She has the right to want to get pregnant and have her own biological child

Here are some of the comments from the reddit thread for you to read through below

It likely has nothing to do with you

They Just need to communicate instead of hoping

It sounds like the OP saved Emma from committing her life to someone who lied

Emma actually deserved to know the truth

It's less about whether or not he wants more kids

This Redditor would want to know if they were Emma

Each person is entitled to their choice

The OP clearly did Emma a huge favor

He should have been honest with Emma if he wanted no kids

Your cousin is selfish for not telling his GF the truth

You repeating something to her was not good

You saved them both from divorce and birth control accident

Why would you like to your partner

You did a good thing as she needed to hear that

Every right for that matter

Being close enough to talk about having children

There are many good arguments against having children. And perhaps we shouldn't force someone to do it if they don't want to devote roughly 18 years of their existence to taking care of another person whose survival depends entirely on them.

And this is regardless of whether they are members of the heteronormative society or not. Drop your thoughts about this story in the comments below.

Maryjane