Cousins Fight After One Criticized The Other For Packing Too Much Food For Her Husband Who Has An Eating Disorder
Families band together during troubled times. Problems can be daunting when faced alone but when someone extends a helping hand, they tend to be more bearable.
This stay-at-home mom showed her cousin much-needed kindness when she found herself in need of temporary shelter. However, her cousin failed to reciprocate when OP needed her grace and understanding.
OP's husband is a lawyer and the father to their six-month-old son. He is also recovering from an eating disorder, a fact her cousin knows about.
OP has been a vital support for his recovery. She packs him an assortment of food to choose from for his lunch.
She typically includes a tub of fruits, the main dish, protein, and snacks. OP knows that this is a lot of food for one person but the idea is to let him choose whichever food appealed to him that day.
There are some days when OP has to throw away his leftovers. Most of the time OP feeds it to their cat or dog if it's safe for them to consume.
Her cousin made some comments about the lunches OP packs for her husband. Her husband's choices that day were pasta, steak fingers, two sandwiches, fruit salad, and a few snacks.
Her cousin accused OP of babying him. She said a grown man doesn't need a variety of food just to get him to eat.
OP told her to back down but she continued ranting about how wasteful this arrangement was because some people cannot afford food while OP was busy catering to an adult
u/throwRAstressedmamaOP told her to shut up or she will be kicked out of the house. That worked and her cousin left for work two hours after.
u/throwRAstressedmamaOP then got an angry phone call from her cousin's mom who told OP she was evil and selfish for threatening her cousin over a minor disagreement
u/throwRAstressedmamaOP said that her cousin overstepped and should have minded her own business
u/throwRAstressedmamaThe next call came from her cousin's twin brother who called OP an a**hole for threatening his sister when she's having a difficult time
u/throwRAstressedmamaOP elaborated on what her cousin said that morning in a reply to a deleted comment
throwRAstressedmamaOP handled the situation well and if her cousin's family are so concerned about her "living arrangement security" they can provide her housing needs
aknotamous
The list of names will be OP's last act of kindness towards her cousin. It would make for a nice parting gift.
jasperjamboree
They are trying to guilt OP because if this arrangement doesn't work out, it means they have to make some room for her cousin in their own homes
cd6020
She knew why OP was preparing her husband's meal that way. She knows he's recovering from an ED but she chose to be snarky about it anyway. Who does that?
alphaowlboy
OP should get started on that list of people calling her an a**hole. It would double as her cousin's list of people she can stay with.
NotShockedFruitWeird, Organic_Start_420
OP gave her warnings but she didn't listen. Whatever OP said after was on her.
Morrighu87
OP's cousin is probably not fond of mirrors
CryptographerNo6348
Hypocrisy is all the rage these days
Possible-Plane-756
She is safe, warm, and fed because OP was kind enough to let her into their home but she somehow thinks her unwanted comments will be tolerated
mahfrogs
The mature thing to do was to discuss what happened once they were calmer. Her cousin went about it the wrong way and immediately tattled to her family who then berated OP.
Her cousin owes OP an apology for the initial comments she made about the food and for the phone calls. If she doesn't sincerely apologize, OP will be more than justified to follow through with the promise of kicking her out.
