Dad's Pregnant Girlfriend Asks for Help, I Tell Her to F*** Off - AITA?

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In a heart-wrenching Reddit thread, a 16-year-old girl opens up about the turmoil she's facing after her mom's passing and her dad's swift introduction of a pregnant girlfriend into their lives. Struggling to cope with the loss of her mother just 14 months ago, the teenager finds herself in a bitter confrontation with her dad over his new relationship.

Expressing her deep hurt and feeling betrayed by her father's quick rebound, she grapples with the idea of accepting this new reality. The situation escalates as the dad's girlfriend demands the daughter's acceptance and participation in celebrating the pregnancy, dismissing the teenager's grief and emotional turmoil.

The daughter takes a stand, choosing to move in with her grandparents rather than endure the uncomfortable living situation. As tensions rise, the daughter faces a critical moment when the girlfriend asks for help but is met with a blunt refusal, sparking further animosity.

Commenters on the Reddit thread weigh in, offering support and pointing out the complexities of the relationships at play. From questioning the girlfriend's motives to advising the daughter on setting boundaries, the responses reflect a mix of empathy and criticism for the challenging dynamics unfolding in the family.

Amidst the turmoil, the daughter seeks validation for her feelings and actions, questioning if she is in the wrong for standing up for herself and her grieving process.

Original Post

My mom died 14 months ago and s**t's been tough since. I (16f) always had a great relationship with my dad before but lately it's been pretty awful.

4 months ago my dad brought this woman home, told me she was his girlfriend and that she was pregnant and moving in with us. This was 9 months after my mom died.

I didn't really know what to say at first. He was scrambling to say stuff but I don't really remember what he said.

But when I did speak, I was bitter and I told him I guess he found a great way to tell me he never loved my mom and was over her. I said that because he had always talked about people moving on within like two years of their husband or wife dying as never really loving them and got over them super fast.

He'd say that loving someone and being ready to move on would take a much longer time. He said he saw it in family and family friends who'd been through the loss.

He said the people who moved on super fast were disrespectful. Especially when they had kids who had lost a parent and needed to be supported and their parents memory preserved.

So I took it really hard when dad was admitting he'd knocked someone up 7 months after my mom died. They'd started screwing each other 5 months after mom died.

Which is something I hate thinking about but he admitted it. His girlfriend got extremely pissed off when I was saying that stuff to dad about him not loving mom.

She took offense that I was focusing on that instead of on the news of a baby and greeting her. I ignored her and kept telling my dad what I thought and she lost it and said I should be excited about the baby.

She said mom was dead and dad had a right to a life after her. She said the baby didn't deserve this s**t.

She moved in that day and dad spent days trying to make me okay and to apologize for it all happening so fast. His girlfriend didn't want me there and said I needed to leave if I wouldn't welcome her and celebrate the baby.

Dad said no but I told him I wanted to go. He tried to fight it but I asked him if he ever wanted a relationship with me because if he did, it would not happen if I was forced to live with her.

I moved in with my grandparents. Dad comes to see me multiple times a week.

He's talked me into going to the house for dinner a couple of times but me and his girlfriend do not like each other. She's extra bitter that dad's so focused on making our relationship work instead of on her and the baby.

The last time I saw her was a month ago and she told me I was disgusting for not getting over myself and warming up to the baby who's coming whether I like it or not. She was also pissed that I wouldn't pick something up for her when she dropped it.

Last Tuesday I got a text from her, don't have her number but she said who she was, telling me she needed me to go over there NOW because she left her key in the house and got locked outside and she was in pain and having some bleeding and was supposed to rest. I still have a key to the house and dad was still at work.

I replied f**k off and I didn't go to help her. I blocked her number too.

After that she used dad's phone to leave a voicemail yelling at me and calling me names for leaving her outside when she's 7 months pregnant. I ignored it and dad told me she just waited in the car until he got home.

But she texted me in the middle of the night from dad's phone calling me a POS. My dad knows about it and he apologized.

He's still trying to make this all okay with me but he also hopes we can all get along and be a family. AITA?