Reddit Girl's Male Friend Accuses Her Of Emasculating Him After She Publicly Defeated Him In Jiu Jitsu

"Jason launched into a really angry rant about how I emasculated him in front of his friends."

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• May 17, 2023

People have different beliefs about specific genders and what to expect from each gender. Even when these beliefs are unfounded and not backed by scientific findings, people tend to stand by them.

Unfortunately, these beliefs are sometimes upsetting, especially when there’s a clear line of inequality being showcased. Some people, for example, view men as the stronger gender and women as the weaker one. 

These different beliefs have caused countless conflicts, and it doesn’t seem like these conflicts will stop anytime soon. We found a story on the AITB community on Reddit that paints a similar picture.

OP shared that she’d recently taken up Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and was enjoying it. One of the reasons she had taken the sport up was to learn to defend herself whenever the need arose. 

Her coach regularly held sparring matches, and when it was OP’s turn, he paired her with an acquaintance of hers. Even though the guy was taller and more muscular than OP was, OP’s technique was superior, and she won the match. 

Later, the guy approached her and accused her of emasculating and deliberately embarrassing him in front of his friends. This led OP to ask the critical AITB question.

Check out the full details of the story below, as well as the Reddit community's verdict on the matter.

Let's dig into the details

OP has been taking Brazilian Jiu Jitsu classes for some time now. Interestingly, she was able to defeat a male acquaintance who was larger than her in one of their practice rounds

This didn't go down well with the guy, as he felt embarrassed to have lost to a girl in front of everyone

Let's take a look at the comments from the Reddit community below:

"It’s an important and humbling lesson which he was clearly not ready to learn."

"If he didn’t want to be beat by a girl he should be better at BJJ"

"His behavior is not ok and indicates he cannot tolerate women winning, which will make him PURE HELL for other women to deal with out in the real world."

"Guy needs to stop being worried about his perceived masculinity or lack of and practice more if he doesn’t wanna get his butt beat."

"He needs to stop assuming that being a dude means he deserves to win against people who are more skilled than him"

"If his ego is so fragile, maybe he should stick to sports where he is sure he can never lose. Like... walking"

"I'd probably report him for his sexist behavior"

"He has a problem, not you. It was a friendly sparring match in order to practice your skills"

The commenters believe OP is NTB. However, they didn’t share the same belief regarding OP’s sparring partner. 

They accused the guy of being entitled and was the one emasculating himself, not OP.

Some people advised OP to report him to their coach, as his behavior was unacceptable. They also assured her that his ego issues were not her problem to deal with. 

What's your take on the story? Join the conversation in the comments below.

Jesse