Entitled Childless Family Won't Adjust Their Annual Adventure Vacation To Their Pregnant Sister, Saying She's Ruining It

"She is causing trouble and delaying the whole thing."

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• March 22, 2024

The first baby in the family always brings huge changes. But if it was a child-free family, adjusting to new circumstances can be a little challenging.

Recently, a Reddit user shared her story online, wondering if her family was in the wrong regarding the same milestone in their lives. The OP explained her family consists of her, her sister, her brother, their parents, and their significant others.

They have enjoyed adventurous, fitness-oriented vacations together for 13 years. This tradition faced a new challenge when they discovered their sister was pregnant, surprising them since both siblings had chosen to be child-free.

Despite their initial surprise, the family is happy about the first baby in the family. But this year's vacation plans, involving mountain climbing, biking, and a pub night, were met with resistance from her pregnant sister, who preferred a beach resort vacation due to her inability to participate in strenuous activities.

Attempting to accommodate everyone, their mother proposed splitting the group: she and the sister would enjoy more relaxed activities while the rest of them, engaged in the planned adventures, could join them for dinner.

But the sister rejected this compromise, insisting on a vacation that catered to her needs, causing frustration and delaying bookings. The OP's brother, losing patience, threatened to proceed with the original plans without the sister.

To avoid exclusion and conflict, the family had decided to book the vacation for the sister and brother-in-law also, hoping she might join them at the last minute. If not, they planned for their aunt and uncle to take their places.

But, the family can't understand why the sister is acting like this and expects everyone to change their plans due to her pregnancy.

The OP explained:

For nearly 13 years, the family has enjoyed annual family adventurous vacations:

This year, they learned their sister was four months pregnant:

Therefore, the sister expressed a desire for a more relaxed beach resort vacation:

The sister said their usual vacation activities would exclude her due to her pregnancy:

So, they came up with a plan to separate into two groups, but the sister wasn't happy about it:

The sister wanted everyone to spend the vacation together but adjusted to her pregnancy:

The family feels she unnecessarily causes trouble:

The OP would like her to be included, but she also believes her sister's expectations are unreasonable:

Finally, the family proceeded with their original plan and booked the vacation for everyone, including the sister:

A Redditor said they should adjust their plans and spend more time with their sister

Another Redditor explained that the family's perspective is hurting their sister's feelings

Since the vacation is not booked yet, they still have a chance to change their plans

They should hang out with their sister more

The sister just wants them to spend the holiday together as a family

If it is a family vacation, the family should spend more time together

A Redditor pointed out the fact that this is everyone's last vacation without a baby

But another Redditor disagreed

They should stop going on vacations together

It's a challenging situation, but the compromise is always the right way

They are not a child-free family anymore

Redditors pointed out a fact that the family doesn't seem to notice, saying that they are no longer a childless family. Therefore, they need to adjust their vacation plans to their sister if they want to nurture good family relations.

The sister just wants to spend more time with them, and they should feel the same.

Filip