Husband Asks If He's An A**hole For Telling His Wife She Can Celebrate Christmas With Her Family Alone After They Reschedule
The holiday season is all about spending time with the people we love the most. We look forward to catching up with family, friends, and people we may not otherwise get to see throughout the year.
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But sometimes, things happen, and plans change. Recently, Reddit user u/xmasreschedaita posted in the AITA (Am I The A**hole?) subreddit about how his Christmas didn't quite go as planned.
The original poster explained that he and his wife have been married for 10 years and have three children. For the past 12 years, the couple has had a New Year's Eve tradition where they catch up with the same group of friends.
Sometimes they would rent an Airbnb, or some years they would just gather at someone's house. The OP says it's something he really looks forward to each year, especially since having kids, it has become harder to maintain those friendships.
This past year, the plan was to get together at one of the friends' houses. OP's parents were going to babysit the kids for the night so that the couple could bring in the new year with their friends.
However, when their plans for Christmas suddenly changed, things took a turn for the worst. The OP explained that they were supposed to spend Christmas with his wife's family, but some of the family had fallen sick, so his wife's mother and aunt decided to reschedule it for New Year's Eve.
They didn't ask first; they just announced that Christmas would be celebrated on New Year's Eve instead of Christmas Eve. OP's wife just assumed that Christmas with her family would be more important than spending New Year's Eve with their friends.
But OP told his wife that he didn't want to cancel on their friends. He had been looking forward to it for months, and he wanted to go.
The Redditor's wife told him that he shouldn't prioritize their friends over her family. But the OP explained to her that this New Year's Eve tradition was important to him.
So, he suggested that she could go to visit her family alone while he went to visit with their friends. Well, that didn't go over very well, and OP's wife was not happy.
At the time that the Redditor originally posted, his wife was still trying to convince him to cancel on their friends. Keep scrolling to see how people reacted.
The OP posted about how his Christmas didn't quite go as planned.
The couple has a New Year's Eve tradition where they catch up with the same group of friends. However, when their plans for Christmas suddenly changed, things took a turn for the worst.
They were supposed to spend Christmas with his wife's family, but some of the family had fallen sick, so his wife's mother and aunt decided to reschedule it for New Year's Eve.
OP's wife just assumed that Christmas with her family would be more important than spending New Year's Eve with their friends.
The Redditor's wife told him that he shouldn't prioritize their friends over her family. So, he suggested that she could go to visit her family alone while he went to visit with their friends.
Well, that didn't go over very well and OP's wife was not happy.
At the time that the Redditor originally posted, his wife was still trying to convince him to cancel on their friends.
Here's how people reacted.
Friends are family as well.
It happens.
"They should have asked if people had plans."
"Seems like a good solution."
"Divide and conquer."
"Bad manners."
"Not everything has to be done together."
Of course people have plans on NYE!
It would be rude to cancel.
"The only one that sucks here is your wife."
It's a "fine compromise."
"You had plans."
Keep your plans.
"She's just being selfish."
Go in good conscience.
"This is a no win situation."
"Those plans were made first."
"Plans change."
"Go drink and be merry with your friends."
What's your take on this situation? Do you think the OP should cancel his plans, or should he stick to his guns and keep them?
In times like these, compromise is key. Sometimes things don't go as planned, but a little flexibility goes a long way.
We would love to hear your opinions on this. You can share your thoughts with us in the comment section.