Irresponsible Guy Blames Mental Health For Starving Friend's Pet Spider To Death
FunBear8523, a Reddit user, shared a post on the "AITA" subreddit, seeking opinions on a situation involving her pet jumping spider and a friend. FunBear8523 is studying zoology at university and has a pet spider that means a lot to her.
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She was struggling with being away from home while her dad was in the hospital, so she asked her friend, who was also studying zoology, to look after the spider while she was gone. The friend agreed and even claimed to be an animal lover, so FunBear8523 gave him all the equipment and food he needed to care for the spider.
FunBear8523 says she checked in on the spider regularly, and the friend assured her that it was healthy and active, though he never sent any pictures. However, just before Christmas, the friend told FunBear8523 she had to come back and retrieve the spider.
Upon getting the spider back, FunBear8523 realized that the spider was near death, with its enclosure soaking wet and growing mold, and all of the food dead. The friend admitted to lying about feeding the spider and taking care of it when FunBear8523 confronted him.
He claimed that he didn’t even feed the spider once in the five-week period he had her because he was in a bad mental state. FunBear8523 is torn between feeling like she should have been more responsible for her pet and feeling like her friend should not have asked to look after the pet if he was unable to do so.
Here's how the AITA community responded to her post.
Here's OP's story.
She couldn't believe what she saw in her pet's cage.
Was she wrong to confront him? Here's what Reddit thinks.
1. Her friend should have been upfront about not being able to care for the spider.
2. Her friend has no valid reason for neglecting the spider.
3. She should sever ties with her friend.
4. Her friend had enough time to admit that they were unable to care for the spider.
5. It makes no sense for her to feel that she's in the wrong.
6. Her friend failed to keep their promise.
7. Her friend was irresponsibly.
8. Those who can't care for themselves shouldn't be trusted to care for others.
9. Her friend messed up and knows it.
10. A spider does not qualify as a pet.
What do you think?
Honesty is a key aspect of building and maintaining strong relationships with friends and loved ones. When someone asks for assistance, it is important to be upfront about your ability to fulfill their request.
If you cannot fulfill their request, it is better to be honest and tell them early on rather than make promises you cannot keep. Neglecting to do so can lead to disappointment, mistrust, and even resentment in the relationship.
Being honest about your limitations not only protects the trust in your relationship but also shows respect for the person who made the request and gives them an opportunity to find alternative solutions. By being honest and transparent, you build stronger, more fulfilling relationships that are based on mutual trust and respect.
What do you think?