Man Is Tired Of His Girlfriend Expecting Him To Shell Out Money To Buy Her Sister Food Whenever They Go On Dates

by May

Unless it's everyone's idea, it's common courtesy for the couple who invited people who dine with them to shoulder the bill. And if the invitee wants to contribute to the bill, gladly accept the offer.

Moreover, it shouldn't be the man who pays for the dinner if it's the girlfriend who arranged the event. She needs to be the one who'll shoulder it.

Don't be too pushy in the relationship when it comes to who pays for what. If you're the one who extended the invitation, you have to prepare to shoulder the bill.

Ultimately, money matter is a topic that couples need to discuss. Women shouldn't expect men to pay for the tab all the time.

You and your SO need to have an open and honest conversation about the financial aspect of the outing. Otherwise, it will bring awkwardness and unnecessary stress for all involved.

Over at the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) subreddit, a man told the community about a money issue with his girlfriend. The original poster (OP) shares that his girlfriend's sister always wants to know where they're headed whenever they go out.

The sister would then also ask the couple to buy something for her. The guy didn't like that both girls expected him to pay for the sibling's request.

The OP now wonders if he's the a-hole for telling his girlfriend that she should ask him first and not assume that he's going to pay for everything.

The guy is tired of his girlfriend expecting him to pay for her sister's requests every time. they go out

The girlfriend's sister always asks the couple where they're headed whenever they go out.

The sister would ask them to get food for her.

The problem is, it looks like the OP's girlfriend expects him to pay every single time.

She wouldn't ask. She just expects him to pay.

The community thinks that the OP's girlfriend is being entitled.

He can always say no. Then the girlfriend will pay for whatever her sister asks her to buy.

Although the OP gets paid back, all he wants is for his girlfriend to ask.

The OP needs to start setting boundaries when it comes to money.

If he doesn't do so, he'll soon find himself paying for the girlfriend's family.

A simple solution

Is she pretending to offer because she knows her boyfriend will pay for everything, anyway?

The OP needs ask the waitstaff for a separate bill. That way, his girlfriend will pay for her sister.

Compromise is key.

The OP can't be considered the a-hole for such a reasonable request.

The community knows who the real a-holes are.

The OP just needs to stop paying.

Taking this advice will destroy the relationship, though.

A user suggests talking to the sister directly.

But people agree that the real problem here is the OP's girlfriend.

The girlfriend isn't paying. So asking is the least she can do.

A Redditor believes he left out an important detail.

The sister is already 21. She needs to grow up and get things done.

He shouldn't be obligated to pay for an adult who's capable of supporting herself.

All the OP wants is for his girlfriend to ask him to pay for the stuff for her sister. There's nothing wrong with this simple request.

But if it's going to be an issue, the OP needs to start laying down rules for the times when his girlfriend's sister is asking them to buy something.