Redditor Asks If She's An A**hole For Giving Her Boyfriend's 14-Year-Old Daughter "The Talk"

"She needs to know this. She's 14, not 4!"

Stephanie

• Published in Interesting
• March 20, 2023

Puberty is tough to navigate at the best of times, so it's fair to say that the more knowledge we arm our kids with the better, right? Well, sadly, some parents don't think so, and Reddit user u/No-Village5587 has just experienced the backlash of this.

You see, the OP and her boyfriend recently moved in together after dating for five years. Her boyfriend has a 14-year-old daughter from a previous relationship, and she lives with them on alternate weeks.

The OP explained that she is very fond of her boyfriend's daughter and has developed a close relationship with her over the years. So, when the OP moved in, she told the daughter that if she ever needed any sanitary products, she could help herself to the OP's supply.

But, the OP was shocked to realize that the daughter had no idea what she was talking about or what those products were for. So, the OP explained to her briefly about the menstrual cycle and what to expect.

The OP spoke to her boyfriend about it afterward, and he also was shocked that his ex had not had "the talk" with their daughter yet. He ended up calling her, which resulted in a huge fight.

It turns out the mother purposely didn't tell her daughter about sex because she believed not knowing would keep her from making mistakes. She had even excused her from sex education classes at school.

Thankfully, the OP's boyfriend defended her and told his ex she had no right to be hostile toward the OP for telling their daughter information she needed to know. Keep scrolling to see how people reacted.

The OP asked if she's an a**hole for giving her boyfriend's 14-year-old daughter "the talk."

She explained that she and her boyfriend's daughter have a close relationship.

The daughter was confused when the OP mentioned sanitary products, so she began explaining the menstrual cycle to her.

This led to a huge fight between the OP's boyfriend and his ex.

Now the OP is wondering if she made a mistake by interfering.

Here's how people reacted.

"She needed to know."

"Lack of sex education is what leads to unplanned pregnancies and unsafe sex."

NTA.

"No child should go through that unprepared."

"Not a great unilateral decision on her part."

"You did the right thing by telling her."

"She's 14, not 4."

"Her mother should have had the talk years ago."

"The kid needed to know."

"It's good that your BF backed your up."

"Ignorance is the leading cause of teenage pregnancy."

"Where is the logic behind not telling her?"

"You did the girl a favor."

"She'd be terrified if she didn't know and then got her period."

"A major dumbass."

What's your take on this situation? Do you think the OP should have stayed out of it, or did the daughter need to know?

Puberty is a confusing time for anyone. But, surely, the more knowledge our kids have, the better.

We would love to hear your opinions on this. You can share your thoughts with us in the comment section.

Stephanie