Woman Furious At Mother For Showing Up Drunk To Babysit Her Kids
In a recent family gathering that was supposed to be a simple celebration of her husband's birthday, a local woman, OP of the story, found herself facing an unexpected and challenging situation.
OP had arranged for her mom to watch her young children for a couple of hours so she and her husband could enjoy a quiet evening out. However, what was meant to be a pleasant evening took an unexpected turn.
At 7 p.m., instead of her mom, it was her dad who arrived at the door. He explained that he had no idea where OP's mom was and couldn't reach her by phone.
This already started the evening on a disappointing note, but things took a more troublesome turn when her mom finally arrived at 7:30, visibly intoxicated and having driven herself to the gathering. What followed was a series of uncomfortable and tense moments, with OP's mom causing a scene by calling her dad derogatory names in front of the children.
Understandably, OP's husband was furious, and what was meant to be a pleasant birthday celebration turned into a strained and awkward evening. Now, OP is left wondering how to address this situation.
It's a difficult spot to be in when dealing with a parent who is defensive and perhaps not fully aware of the consequences of their actions.
It was OP's husband's birthday, and she requested her mother to look after their children so that they could enjoy some time out together.
Thirty minutes later than expected, OP's mother arrived, clearly wasted, and the evening quickly devolved into a disaster.
OP is not overreacting
OP should cut off contact until she seeks treatment, and prioritize her children's safety by not leaving them with her again.
OP has to ensure her kids' safety by giving her a time-out until she completes therapy
OP shouldn't trust her with babysitting anymore
OP could consider joining Al-Anon for support
OP needs to cut her off to protect her sanity and her kids.
OP needs to make it clear that the only way she can resume contact is if she seeks treatment for her issues
OP's mom's alcohol problem is her own issue.
OP needs to tell her that showing up in that condition is unacceptable
Allowing her to watch OP's kids is risky because she could endanger them by driving under the influence
OP should express concern about her dangerous behavior around children and make it clear that she can't babysit or drive with them due to her recklessness.
OP should talk to her mom privately about her behavior and how it affected the family, especially the kids. They need to set clear rules about drinking and taking care of the children.
If her mom has a drinking problem, she should get help. If things are still tense, OP should think about getting a family counselor to help sort things out.
OP has to be careful and stick to the rules when her mom is around the kids. Most importantly, OP should focus on keeping her family safe and happy while dealing with her mom's actions.
