Playful Husband Upset That His Wife's Friend Gossiped About The "Prepare For Divorce" Reminder On His Phone Without Knowing It Was An Inside Joke
A cute inside joke turned into unnecessary drama after a friend decided to get in the middle of it. The inside joke started when the 32-year-old OP and his wife were still boyfriend and girlfriend.
They joked about "divorcing" each other before their anniversary. It was so they could get married again and go on another honeymoon.
It has been a fun three-year pre-anniversary joke they tell each other. OP labeled the anniversary reminder in his calendar as "prepare for divorce."
The reminder is set six months before their actual anniversary. It's when he plans what he wants to do for their celebration, e.g., book flights and take time off from work.
One of his wife's friends, K, saw the reminder on OP's phone. They were all hanging out, and at one point, OP excused himself.
He left his phone on the table. When he returned, K, who was usually friendly to him, acted aloof — OP thought K was just tired.
Coincidentally, OP got his anniversary reminder while he was away. K saw the "prepare for divorce" reminder and proceeded to tell their friends.
K even met with OP's wife to break the bad news. OP's wife was confused and embarrassed by the misunderstanding.
She had to explain their inside joke to K and their other concerned friends. OP was less than forgiving about K's actions.
OP felt that K violated his privacy. He questioned why K didn't approach him first before informing everyone else.
u/Natural-Raccoon-2866OP's wife sympathized why he felt that way. However, she defended her friend who just wanted to look out for her.
u/Natural-Raccoon-2866K believes OP is an idiot for labeling a reminder that way. They don't want to apologize to OP. His wife's friend group is split, so OP asked, was he the jerk for the misunderstood inside joke?
u/Natural-Raccoon-2866OP and his wife should take pride in the playfulness of their relationship
RoxasofsorrowXIIIIf K acted the way they did out of concern, why did they speak to their friends first instead of addressing the issue with either OP or his wife?
RoxasofsorrowXIIIMaybe K and OP aren't good enough friends for K to approach him about an impending divorce. She is certainly good enough friends with his wife to talk to her without involving their other friends.
Sirix_8472
OP and his wife shouldn't have to feel bad for their ongoing "silly" tradition. Their inside joke is actually cute and sweet — not at all unusual for couples who love each other.
StreetofChimes
If K is a good friend, they would apologize to OP for blowing things out of proportion.
diminishingpatience
Doubling down and calling OP an idiot for the way he labeled his reminder means K is either too embarrassed to own up to their mistake or they don't think they did anything wrong.
SoullessWreck
It's understandable up to a point why OP's reminder caught K's curious eyes
Spiritual-Bridge3027
What made their actions questionable was when they gossiped about what they saw to their other friends.
ohgodneau
K acted as if their speculation was a fact
ohgodneau
Whatever degree of friendship K and OP had would not improve if K refused to apologize for creating drama out of a false assumption. OP is not an idiot for labeling a personal reminder using an inside joke only he and his wife would understand.
They clearly didn't expect anyone to meddle with their personal business, but K didn't get the memo. OP shouldn't feel bad for their anniversary tradition, but I don't think he should expect an apology from K.
