Woman Thinks It's A Waste To Tell Her Uncaring In-Laws About Her Pregnancy, Husband Gets Hurt About It

"We can do a special announcement if you want but I don't see the point"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• March 19, 2023

You may be an approval seeker if you struggle to make decisions on your own or get upset when people disagree with you. Human relationships may occasionally involve the need for approval, but constantly pursuing approval from others could be a symptom of emotional difficulty.

By definition, acceptance refers to the idea that something is suitable or appropriate. A person who wants approval is pleading with others to accept them for who they are or for what they have done.

Seeking the praise of others frequently indicates that you haven't given it to yourself. It's just like a child's perception of value increases when they receive affirmation on a regular basis.

They ultimately gain confidence in their internal sense of approval, realizing that they frequently have it when they don't need external validation. The OP's husband in today's story is an approval seeker.

The OP shared how she and her husband found out they were expecting. They announced it to the OP's family, as they are very involved, but the husband's family is estranged.

The OP also mentioned that they don't like her husband and have been telling her to leave him and save herself since she got together with him. Still, the husband wanted to tell his side of the family about the pregnancy so they could see that "he's not the man that he used to be." 

And here's the headline...

The OP's family is always involved while her inlaws are estranged

The OP doesn't like them as people and doesn't like how they treat her husband

The OP admits that her in laws aren't good people but her husband sees things differently

Here are what other Redditors thought about the story

This Redditor wants to know why the OP is unwilling to do something so small

Why tell a mother who miscarried that it is for the best?

You'll have the rest of the pregnancy to seek therapy

Let him be the one to do the planning

He is hoping that they will be excited

This Redditor hopes they are exited for them both

You can plan something fun for his family

You can get you and your husband some therapy

You can humor him for the announcement

You just want to protect him from their apathy

The OP mentions why the family isn't supportive of her pregnancy

The problem is that you took his feelings as a waste

You should have seen grandma's face

You did most of the planning to tell your family

This is quite important to the OP's husband

They do not deserve to be told

Most of us have a basic need to be loved and accepted

Some kids might go through difficult situations that leave them feeling insecure or with poor self-esteem. Due to this, they might struggle as adults to accept themselves.

As a result, they might constantly try to win others over and engage in people-pleasing activities. Some redditors understood how the OP felt, while others didn't.

Drop your own thoughts about this story in the comments below.

Maryjane