Woman Thinks It's A Waste To Tell Her Uncaring In-Laws About Her Pregnancy, Husband Gets Hurt About It
You may be an approval seeker if you struggle to make decisions on your own or get upset when people disagree with you. Human relationships may occasionally involve the need for approval, but constantly pursuing approval from others could be a symptom of emotional difficulty.
By definition, acceptance refers to the idea that something is suitable or appropriate. A person who wants approval is pleading with others to accept them for who they are or for what they have done.
Seeking the praise of others frequently indicates that you haven't given it to yourself. It's just like a child's perception of value increases when they receive affirmation on a regular basis.
They ultimately gain confidence in their internal sense of approval, realizing that they frequently have it when they don't need external validation. The OP's husband in today's story is an approval seeker.
The OP shared how she and her husband found out they were expecting. They announced it to the OP's family, as they are very involved, but the husband's family is estranged.
The OP also mentioned that they don't like her husband and have been telling her to leave him and save herself since she got together with him. Still, the husband wanted to tell his side of the family about the pregnancy so they could see that "he's not the man that he used to be."
And here's the headline...
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The OP's family is always involved while her inlaws are estranged
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The OP doesn't like them as people and doesn't like how they treat her husband
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The OP admits that her in laws aren't good people but her husband sees things differently
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Here are what other Redditors thought about the story
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This Redditor wants to know why the OP is unwilling to do something so small
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Why tell a mother who miscarried that it is for the best?
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You'll have the rest of the pregnancy to seek therapy
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Let him be the one to do the planning
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He is hoping that they will be excited
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This Redditor hopes they are exited for them both
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You can plan something fun for his family
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You can get you and your husband some therapy
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You can humor him for the announcement
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You just want to protect him from their apathy
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The OP mentions why the family isn't supportive of her pregnancy
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The problem is that you took his feelings as a waste
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You should have seen grandma's face
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You did most of the planning to tell your family
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This is quite important to the OP's husband
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They do not deserve to be told
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Most of us have a basic need to be loved and accepted
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Some kids might go through difficult situations that leave them feeling insecure or with poor self-esteem. Due to this, they might struggle as adults to accept themselves.
As a result, they might constantly try to win others over and engage in people-pleasing activities. Some redditors understood how the OP felt, while others didn't.
Drop your own thoughts about this story in the comments below.
