22-Year-Old Man Leaves Family Gathering After Being Told He Can't Sit At The Adults' Table Until He Has Kids
You reach a certain age when suddenly the level of responsibilities you carry becomes more. And so does the respect from the family who’ve watched you grow up.
The kids' table that you were subjected to then becomes too small, and it’s time to sit with the adults. There’s this opportunity to finally be seen as one of them, someone that deserves the same recognition.
But in the case of a Redditor who posted on r/AITA at the age of 22, they still see him as a kid. It was when OP went to a family get-together in a park, attending with quiche and cups.
After talking and fun activities, when it was time to sit down, OP’s aunt and the rest of the other ‘adults’ explained to him why he should be at the kids’ table. He then questioned their perspective when he was clearly an adult.
They answered that despite his reasons, only the 1st and 2nd generations are considered adults. Their final reason was that they would let him sit at the adults' table if he had kids.
He couldn’t accept it and decided to leave, bringing his quiche with him. OP received texts after telling him to come back and apologize.
He disregarded them, as well as the calls, but he felt guilty that he might’ve ruined their family event. This doesn’t change his feelings of not being treated fairly by the family members.
This is how OP's story went
SourceOP gave a little background about his family
KorzazThey had him sit at the table with kids because that's how they still label him as
KorzazHe left after they disregarded his reasons with the quiche he brought
KorzazOP thanked those who kindly gave him positive comments
KorzazA little revenge quiche cushions the blow
alsmit250And according to OP, it’s more delicious this way
Korzaz
The benefits of revenge quiche are endless!
Wreny84
Redditors suggested that if they really want OP to sit at the kids' table...
ICICLEHOAX
then he should let the adults know how he’ll be speaking to them
ICICLEHOAX
For those adults who actually had to stay at the kids’ table, this is how they handled it
capricorn604
The ‘adults’ probably had a lot of questions to answer after that one
UnspecificGravity
OP could have given them a choice with both outcomes possibly favorable to him
tjtwister1522
They’ll easily find out that OP is not obligated to do anything if he’s treated as a kid, that includes contributing to the get-together
CODE_NAME_DUCKY
Would they also make the SO sit at the kids’ table?
kiwichick286
There was also the question of letting OP sit at the adults’ table if he remained child-free
poodlefanatic
Although OP could choose not to attend any more family events, there is an opportunity for him to have petty revenge
Avebury1
They better RSVP early for that
ryoko_kusanagi
There’s a possibility that OP did sour the mood at the family get-together after leaving with his quiche. Redditors still justified that in this situation, he is NTA.
It was after agreeing that they didn’t treat him with the respect that he deserves. They came up with multiple suggestions instead of how to proceed forward, albeit some suggestions might be petty, OP had read them and provided an edit to thank them.
