Girl's Boyfriend Is Furious She Didn't Tell Him Her Gynecologist Is Male, And She Wants To Know If She Is Wrong
Most women don’t particularly like going to gynecologists. The experience is not a pleasant one, so it doesn't matter who is performing the checkup, male or female.
Apparently, it does matter to some men, who feel uncomfortable with male gynecologists. I don’t really see why, because they aren’t the ones in the chair.
One woman posted a question in the Reddit AITA (Am I The A-hole) subreddit, and she wants to know if she was wrong for not telling her boyfriend that her OBGYN is a male. It turned out to be an interesting discussion topic, with some excellent points.
See for yourself.
As the OP told, she believes that her gynecologist visit is no place for a man. She has a right to feel that way, even if others don’t agree.
She says, “Basically, my boyfriend wanted to accompany me to my OBGYN visit, I told him that I don’t like when there are men present in the waiting room and that there’s almost never any men there as other women seem to share this feeling. I consider the OBGYN to be something of a safe female space.”
OP’s boyfriend was not satisfied when he found out that her gynecologist was a man:
“It just never came up before. There wasn’t ever a reason to discuss the genders of my various doctors. My boyfriend got angry and reminded me how I told him that the OBGYN office is a female space for me and how hypocritical that is given that my doctor is a man.
My boyfriend told me that I’m being ridiculous if a man sitting in the waiting room makes me uncomfortable but having another man rummage around in my crotch is okay (his phrasing).”
She continues, “Am I the a—hole for not telling my BF that my doctor is male? Especially given the context when I told my bf I don’t want him to accompany me and make other women feel awkward.”
This specific AITA post set attracted a lot of attention, and a lot of “NTA” (Not The A-hole) answers. Like this:
What significance has the doctor’s gender? It looks like the guy’s problem and not the OP’s issue.
Naturally, some trolls say the OP was “policing” the waiting room, which is totally not the point of this post, and spin doctoring the issue.
It is odd, though, to want to go to a casual check-up when your partner isn’t pregnant. Does he escort her to the dentist, for instance?
Some people accused the girl of making this problem up.
Testosterone overdrive.
One statement reminded us that, in fact, men do go the OBGYN, mainly since they have vaginas—an excellent point.
The bottom line is that this is not about men being allowed in the waiting room, but if the boyfriend is entitled to be jealous of a male gynecologist. NTA.
