Son Tells Mom That He Misses Her, So She Sells Her House Within The Week To Move In With Him And His Wife As A Surprise
Having your mother-in-law move in without any notice is fun in theory, at least in movies. In a film, it would start with the MIL showing up at the house in the middle of the night with a suitcase in tow.
She will enter without being welcomed and rant about how she found herself in this hilarious predicament. She will then pick a room to sleep in, which will become her new home.
Over the course of her stay, she and her daughter or son-in-law will grow to respect each other, which will bring renewed harmony to their wacky family. It will end with her coming to their vacation as a surprise which will usher in a sequel.
In real life, it's not nearly as fun as the movies make it out to be. This OP thought she and her husband were living far enough from each other that random drop-ins wouldn't happen.
Little did she know, thousands of miles are not enough to deter her MIL. OP's husband was going through some rough times when he told his mom how much he missed her.
A normal parent will say, "I miss you dearly," or something, but OP's MIL didn't think that was enough. So, she sold her house a week later to move closer to them.
No discussions or second thoughts, she just went and sold her home. OP bounced fast and thought this wouldn't be a big problem.
She loves her MIL. She's a wonderful and sweet woman; she's sure she won't mind her living so close to them & it will be good for mother and son to see other more frequently.
The big problem showed up fast, her MIL spent $50,000 from the house's sale to buy herself a brand-new car
u/Adventurous-Host-205OP says there was no need for this since her MIL is retired and lives off of disability checks
u/Adventurous-Host-205This isn't the first time her MIL mishandled her money. Even when she and her husband were broke college students, he had to send his mom money every few weeks because of how poorly she managed her finances.
u/Adventurous-Host-205The other big issue is, OP and her husband are already stressed out helping OP's mom find a new place after she got evicted
u/Adventurous-Host-205OP made it clear to her mom that she can't stay with them, a memo her MIL didn't get or understand after she accidentally revealed she will be staying with them
She didn't even bother telling her own son about crashing at their house. OP didn't waste any time and told her MIL that she can't stay with them.
Her MIL has been guilt-tripping OP's husband into letting her stay and OP can see that it's working. OP doesn't think it's fair that she will stay at their house when she told her own mother that's not possible.
u/Adventurous-Host-205A commenter said that OP is not the a**hole for barring her MIL from staying at their house but the way she's talking about her is disrespectful
BlondeBandit76OP clarified that neither her mom or her husband's mom are allowed to stay at their house. OP doesn't think her post will cause a fight between them because her husband is fully in-the-know
Adventurous-Host-205
The commenter's opinion is colored by his mom's recent passing but admits OP's sentiments are valid
BlondeBandit76
OP says she loves her MIL but she is worried that indefinitely living with her will impact all of their mental and financial health
Adventurous-Host-205
When it's all laid out this way, it is easy to see why OP is so overwhelmed by the prospect of her MIL moving in with them
mathismemes
MIL apparently didn't even tell her son that she bought an expensive, new car. He found out through social media.
Adventurous-Host-205
Her lack of forethought or planning is incredible. She didn't hesitate and sold her house within a week because her adult son told her he missed her.
Disabled_Army_Vet_82
OP says her MIL has a tendency to steamroll any opinions thrown her way, which OP's meek husband can't fight against
Adventurous-Host-205
This would be the best solution. They will either come out as best friends or absolutely hate each other. The drama will be great.
wordsmythy
OP says given the elderly women's personalities, the option, though hilarious, wouldn't be ideal.
Adventurous-Host-205
That's probably why she sold her house so quickly, she was counting on her son to just let her move in since she's already there. It's too bad she didn't factor OP into the equation.
VisenyaTargaryen2606
OP should make sure that when her MIL drops by eventually that there are no luggage in her expensive car
wordsmythy
Where is OP's husband in all of this? What is he doing other than keeping his guilt at bay?
Free_butterfly_
They shouldn't let her sleepover, not even for a night because she will make herself comfortable and take it as an invite to move in
educatedinsolence
OP is right, it's only fair that her MIL shouldn't move in with them since her own mother was given the same boundary. OP's mom was evicted, something that was out of her control.
Her MIL, on the other hand, chose to sell her house without a plan after one conversation with her son. Redditors in the comments section are supportive of OP and her shiny, indestructible spine.
