Young Adult Woman Intends To Move In With Her Dad To Escape The Toxic Environment Her Mom's Foreign Girlfriend Created
Let's be real, there's always a little bit of adjustment involved when a family blends with a new member. And let's also be real, it can be tough to suddenly have someone waltz into your life and try to take on a parental role.
Don't even get us started on the whole "you'll never replace my real parent" thing. But at the end of the day, if your mom is happy and in love, you need to suck it up and make an effort to get along with her new partner.
But what do you do if your mom's new partner is toxic? First of all, don't feel like you have to hang out with them just because they're important to your mother.
It's totally okay to distance yourself from them and spend more time with family members who make you feel comfortable and happy. Secondly, talk to your mom about any concerns or issues you may have with her partner.
Communication is key in any relationship and she deserves to know how her partner is making you feel. And finally, never feel obligated to tolerate anyone who brings negativity into your life.
Your mental well-being should always come first. If worse comes to worst, then maybe it's time to consider moving out.
A young adult female recently shared her worries on the "Am I The A**hole?" subreddit. According to the original poster (OP) her mom has a girlfriend who's currently living with them.
This girlfriend is a foreigner and at the beginning the OP only talked to her over Face Time. She initially thought her mom's girlfriend was awesome.
But things became different when this person moved in with the OP and her mom.
The OP's parents are divorced. And now, her mom has a new partner.
the-giddy-auntWhen the girlfriend finally moved in with the OP and her mom, things turned different.
the-giddy-auntThe OP and her mom's partner keep getting into arguments.
Now, the OP wants to move out and live with her dad.
the-giddy-auntPeople of the subreddit agree that she isn't in the wrong for considering moving out.
SwimmingCoyoteThis relationship moved way too fast. And this mom isn't being a proper mother to her daughter
MattDaveysRedditors also agree that the mom's partner is being manipulative.
unclewolfy
This manipulative person is potentially isolating her mom.
The OP needs some serious talk with her mother.
gunnerclark
Walking away from a toxic environment is okay.
Separate-Bird-1997
The OP should take great care for her mental health.
It_s_just_me
This Redditor believes that the girlfriend is narcissist.
Impressive-Pace9320
The OP doesn't need this kind of drama in her life.
Spike-2021
We're pretty sure moving out is the best option at this point. But she needs to stay in contact with her mom.
katlunkin1
Exactly. Staying in the situation isn't worth it.
Significant_Alps3267
The OP needs to take action and protect herself from this toxic person.
TonosamaACDC
Something definitely feels off with her mom's partner.
wpwphanginthere
This Redditor wants the OP to see the mom's girlfriend as a roommate. Would she want a roommate like this?
distrustfuldiscovery
Before she moves out, the OP needs to talk to her mom about what this person is doing to her.
Kooky_Energy39
For this Redditor, she needs to have a serious and calm talk with both her mom and the girlfriend.
1hotsauce2
The bottom line is that the OP needs to get away from this situation.
LobsterJoseph, 2ndcupofcoffee
She isn't wrong for wanting to leave.
CarbonS0ul
This manipulation is working on her mom, but definitely not working on the OP.
KayNunya
It's only natural for the OP to want to leave and it wouldn't be surprising if she leaves. But before doing so, she needs to talk to her mom about the situation.
They need to talk about how manipulative this woman is. And if her mom takes the side of her girlfriend, then the OP already knows what she needs to do.
