Redditor Questions If He's Wrong for Not Letting Mom's Friend's Kids Use His PS5

"It’s disrespectful for her to tell me what to do with my personal belongings"

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• September 17, 2023

Among all the love and support that parents naturally provide to their children, they also have some expectations from their children. They expect them to behave nicely, to be polite and kind, to share their toys, etc.

Even when children become adults, parents still expect them the same. They can't help themselves as they always have an innate need to tell their children what they should do in certain circumstances.

But for a grown-up person, it can be really irritating. Therefore, a Reddit user recently had an argument with his mother and asked the Reddit community if he was wrong in his stance.

The OP said that his fiancée, who is 28, and he, 27, recently moved back in with the OP's parents due to financial difficulties. With the OP's mum's birthday approaching on Saturday, she has invited some friends along with their children, aged 6 and 8.

The OP's mother instructed the OP to let these children play on his PS5 to keep them entertained. But the OP said he didn't know these children and felt concerned about allowing them to play.

He also said it was disrespectful for the mother to dictate to him what to do with his personal belongings. This reminded him of past instances when he would discover unfamiliar kids playing on his PS3.

The OP's mum responded with comments like "they are our guests" and emphasized the importance of sharing. But adding to the tension, the OP mistakenly sent a text about an argument meant for his fiancée to the mother.

As a result, his mother stopped talking to him.

Here is the OP's issue:

The OP's mother instructed him to allow their guest to play on his PS5, but he refused, and they argued:

He texted his fiancée about the fight but mistakenly sent it to his mother, and she stopped talking to him:

A Redditor told him to hide PS5 and go out with his fiancée

Or he could say it's broken

It's an expensive toy to be given to some random kids to play with

It's not the OP's responsibility to entertain kids

The OP's mom needs a babysitter for an occasion

He should put a passcode on

A Redditor was curious and asked the OP some questions

But another Redditor said that everything is irrelevant since the OP doesn't want to give his PS5

Respecting personal boundaries is a must for a healthy relationship, regardless of age or relationship dynamics. While parents often have the best intentions, they need to acknowledge their adult children's autonomy and decision-making capacities.

The OP's PS5 is a personal belonging, and he has every right to decide who can use it. Past experiences of finding unfamiliar children using his belongings reinforce his concern.

Although living under the parental roof can blur lines, respecting each other's boundaries shouldn't be questioned. So, Redditors agreed with the OP that he is not in the wrong in this situation.

Filip