Mom Develops Habit Of Making Her Children's Birthday All About Herself, Fed-Up Daughter Gives Her A Piece Of Her Mind
Birthdays are a significant turning point in our lives as they commemorate the day we were born or our birth anniversary. It is a moment to celebrate our existence, thinks back on the year just gone, and look forward to what lies ahead.
Nothing compares to a birthday. They serve as both a reminder of our age and a symbol of how far we've come.
Participating in them is a wonderful way to show someone you appreciate them. We can show our love for special people by giving them birthday presents.
When we commemorate someone's birthday, we consider both how much they've accomplished and how long they've lived. Everybody has the opportunity to revel in their uniqueness and recognize the depth of their loved ones' affection on their birthday.
It's vital to honor your birthdays as well as others. It is a beautiful method to celebrate oneself and exhibit self-appreciation simultaneously.
So yes, it matters how you commemorate your birthday. OP's mom has, however, made her children's birthdays about herself because she had endometriosis and had to go through surgery to be able to have children.
OP's birthday is around the corner, and her mom is trying to pick out her birthday cake. The OP is lactose intolerant, and she told her mom she couldn't eat the one she selected, but she still did as she pleased.
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OP's brother already started to complain about hearing endless stories about how incredible she is

OP's mom made sure that she was the one to choose where they went out to dinner to celebrate her birthday

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:
I told her my birthday wasn't all about herIt could've hurt her feelings, and been an inappropriate comment to make, based on her experiences.Below are some of the most interesting replies from other Redditors in response to the OP's story

This Redditor recommends a therapist who specializes in narcissistic abuse

Telling her she ruined the birthday whenever she cries about it

This Redditor believes OP's mom sounds like an abusive narcissist

What mom picks a birthday cake her child can't even eat?

The OP should know that there's nothing she could have done differently

Dealing with her would be optional in the next one year

OP's mom won't change but she shouldn't allow her power ruin things for her as she can plan what she wants for her birthday next time

Another redditor who believes the OP's mom is a narcissist and sounds abusive

Birthdays are significant events in our lives because they commemorate the day we were born or our birth anniversary. It is a moment to celebrate our existence, thinks back on the year just gone, and look forward to what lies ahead.
So it must be nerve-wracking when someone is trying to literally hijack your day. The OP was declared not the AH and that's about it.