Father Tells His Son's Future In-Laws To Keep Their Noses Out Of His Family's Relationships
As a father, there is nothing that brings more joy to your life than the love and relationship you have with your children. The bond between a father and a child is one of the strongest relationships in the world.
However, not all families are the same, and each family has its own unique set of challenges to face. This is especially true for the family at the center of this story from Reddit.
In this story, the father has two children, a daughter who is 24 and a son who is 29. The father and the mother of these children had a brief encounter, which resulted in the birth of his daughter, which he didn't know about until she was 5 years old and her brother was 10.
The mother was not taking care of the children, and they were removed from her care, so OP adopted his daughter's brother and raised both children together as a family. However, OP and his son's relationship is not a typical one since the son only met his father when he was 10 years old, and it took time for them to build a true father-son relationship.
The son calls OP by his name, or "dad," interchangeably, and the father never felt that the son needed to call him "dad." However, the son's future in-laws are bothered by this fact and believe that the son should not call his father by his name during the wedding speech or in general.
They believe that it is disrespectful and shameful, but OP disagrees, and he told the in-laws that their opinions on the matter are not their concern and to keep their noses out of the family's relationships. This caused the in-laws to become insulted, and they are now making a bigger fuss than before.
The future daughter-in-law has told the in-laws that they are sticking their noses into something that is not their business, but the father feels that he may have made things worse. So the father decided to share this story on Reddit to see what other people had to say about this situation.
OP's situation with his kids isn't a simple one, since he only found out they existed when they were 5 and 10 years old

OP's daughter was placed under his care but he had to jump through hoops in order to adopt her step-brother too

The son calls his father by name or "dad" and OP never really cared about that

OP's son is getting married soon and his future in-laws heard him rehearse his speech where he refers to OP by his name

The in-laws believe that this is disrespectful and shameful coming from OP's son

OP's daughter-in-law took his side in the argument

It's quite simple

None of their business

OP is a good egg

They might ruin the wedding with that behavior

In conclusion, the people of Reddit agree that the father did nothing wrong in this scenario. He is a loving and caring father who has done what is best for his children and his family.
The in-laws should not stick their noses into the family's relationships, and the father has every right to stand up for his family and the relationship he has with his son. Ultimately, it is up to the father and his son to decide what is best for their relationship, and no one else has the right to interfere.