Redditor Whose Partner Has Depression Wonders If They're Wrong For Sticking To Their Weekend Plans Instead Of Staying With Their Partner
For people with depression, it can be keeping a relationship can be a bit tough. It can also be tricky for their significant other, especially if they're not sure how to offer support.
Dealing with depression is a challenge that both people in a relationship can't just brush aside. However, it's something they can tackle together.
Sadly it can be so challenging for some people, that they consider breaking up with their depressed partner. That's because it's also taking a toll on their mental health.
On the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) subreddit, a user shared a story about their partner's reaction when they went ahead with their plans, despite their significant other asking them to stay put.
The original poster (OP) tells the community that they've been in a relationship for five years. Their partner has been dealing with depression, and it has been weighing them down.
One day, when the OP made plans to hang out with friends. They already made their partner know beforehand and they even invited their SO to come.
As they were heading out, their partner stopped them from going. The OP tried to comfort their SO before going ahead with their plans.
Comforting their partner wasn't enough. The couple got into a fight, and according to the OP, the remaining days of Easter sucked.
OP didn't feel the need to cancel their plans even after their partner begged them to stay.
RedditOP tells the community that despite their partner having depression, they managed to make things work.
RedditOP asked their partner to go with them and hangout. The SO backed out.
RedditSO asked the OP to stay, but they sticked to their plan, making their partner upset.
RedditWhat happened after the OP left has proven that they are in an unhealthy relationship.
With the way their partner reacted, the OP is considering couples therapy.
RedditIt's good that the OP recognizes that it's emotional blackmail and that they needed to stand their ground despite their partner's reaction.
RedditThe OP isn't a therapist, and their partner need to understand that.
Pushing the role of a shrink onto the OP is unfair.
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One Redditor has seen this pattern so many times. She told the OP to run for the hills or things will get worse.
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Sadly, therapy isn't working on the OP's partner. They still have to deal with their SO's problematic behavior.
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The OP made a promise to their friends. They should keep their word.
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Taking a step back from their partner is one way to process the situation and decide what happens after.
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It's completely okay that the OP kept their word and hung out with their friends that night. Having depression doesn't excuse the SO from being controlling or dismissive of the OP's choices.
The partner needs to understand that couples should support each other through difficult times, but understanding boundaries and respecting individual decisions is crucial, even when one is dealing with depression.
What would you have done if you were in the OP's shoes?
