Lady Falls Out With Her Perfectionist Pregnant Sister About Her Dog, Gets Banned From Meeting The Newborn
Perfectionism may be both a personal liability and a motivation for high achievers. It all comes down to degree.
Excessively high personal standards and overly critical self-evaluations are characteristics of perfectionists. They want flawlessness and will settle for nothing less.
This might show itself as attempts to control people and circumstances, as well as criticism of oneself and others. The original poster of today's story has an elder sister who happens to be a perfectionist.
The OP and her elder sister tend to clash because she gets hostile when things don’t go her way. OP's sister was pregnant, and one night, she called to say she was going into labor.
She then asked the OP if she could watch over her puppy, and the OP agreed. OP's elder sister then gave her detailed instructions, including putting the dog in a safety harness when taking him outside.
The OP adhered to all these instructions but still has a fallout with her sister. The thing is, the OP took the dog out and brought him back in, but she hadn’t fully taken off his harness when he ran toward the living room.
Apparently, OP's mom was on FaceTime with her sister’s boyfriend, and he saw the dog. Read the entire story below for you to find out what happens next.
The OP kicks off her story
Reddit/Traditional_Honey19The OP got angry texts from her sister accusing her of mistreating her dog
Reddit/Traditional_Honey19She said the OP was disgusting for trying to put a dark cloud over her baby’s birth
Reddit/Traditional_Honey19OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:
- The action of in my sisters opinion not taking care of her animal well enough and I perhaps shouldn't have brought it back up.
- That action could have caused greater stress on my sister during labor and the days after.
The Reddit post got hundreds of comments and here are a bunch of them
Reddit/Traditional_Honey19She can find someone else
Reddit/Traditional_Honey19It's absolutely not okay
Reddit/Traditional_Honey19The sister's BF has other plans
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The OP left this somewhere in the comments section
I do think a lot of my reasoning behind trying to explain my feelings was to also try to get her to understand that she never should have been in a position to even be thinking about her dog, she should have been focused on this great thing happened but again, hard for me to tell someone what to do in a situation i've never been in (I have no kids and have not gone through labor)She needs to get her priorities straight
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This is really an overreaction
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Both of them are AHs
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The OP stepped up to help
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Due to the fact that they experience such agony and fear from a subpar performance, perfectionists frequently react negatively to helpful feedback. This was no different for OP's sister and it left the OP feeling as though her feelings are not being acknowledged.
Redditors understood the OP's plight and she was declared not the AH. You can share this article with your loved ones so they too can share their own verdict about this story.
