Redditor Walks Out Of A Restaurant On Date Night After His Wife Subjects Him To Third-Wheeling Again
Do you know that ‘ugh’ face people make when they find out they’re third-wheeling again? You would usually expect it from a friend they decided to tag along or a family member, you wouldn’t expect to see it being sported by the one who’s actually in the relationship.
This Redditor has been bearing the brunt of being the third wheel in his own relationship for a while now. It happens more frequently on date nights, a special time that’s supposed to be just for the two of them.
OP retold the story and described the night their kids were at his in-laws and they were planning to eat out somewhere. OP had his wife choose where only with the condition that they were to go to a place where his wife doesn’t know anyone in.
A little backstory, his wife works in the restaurant industry and would be easily recognized by coworkers as well as previous acquaintances whenever they eat out. That was okay, the kicker is when OP’s wife chats up a storm with them which leads to a whole night of late order taking and third-wheeling with whoever approaches them.
OP’s wife found a restaurant that she was sure she wouldn’t bump into coworkers in. The moment they walked in, she was proven wrong.
The woman that called wife’s OP turned out to be an ex-coworker and their waitress who wanted to catch up. His wife made no attempt to sway the conversation and even engaged with her.
This in turn made delayed what should’ve been the fast task of taking their orders. OP tried to chime in their conversation but was ignored.
His wife’s ex-coworker even introduced her boyfriend but he knew how to take a hint and went back to work. When their orders were put in and they were alone, OP explained how he asked for one condition and yet his wife made excuses.
He went outside since his wife refused to see his point but relented when his wife begged. The peace didn’t last long since another argument ensued.
In the car, they recounted the issue about him feeling like a third wheel again but things just got messier. OP got called controlling and an asshole but he’s here to ask Redditors if they think he truly was in that situation.
It wasn’t even the topic of loyalty, it was about the priorities of her wife and he should be right up there
It was common sense to treat your partner well and put them first the same way they do to you
The complacency would soon seep through the cracks of a relationship and that’s when things start to break
Some people wouldn’t know the value of what they have until they lose it
It might be a knee-jerk reaction for OP’s wife to be the most accommodating to her ‘friends’ to always save face in her career
There are ways to tell someone what you want and not come off as rude
OP already set a definite rule that considers his comfort and wouldn’t harm anyone of followed but it fell on deaf ears
With the number of times OP brought it up and was still ignored, his wife might just simply not care
There’s something about a double standard here somewhere
He shouldn’t, he might be forced to bottle it up and that would be more unhealthy for the both of them
The comment of the wife about how her friends view OP had Redditors reeling for possible answers as to why
It wouldn’t be their fault if the wife feeds them stories and does not defend him
Reconciliation can start from other kinds of date night
One where it would be just the two of them, reducing the risk of running into someone they know
Or this could work to, they could go somewhere far, far, away
If OP’s concerns would be ignored, his third-wheeling might not end and it can go on loop. He has a right to raise the issue to his wife since it touches his comfort when the situation he’s put in can easily be remedied.
If you’ve got suggestions for alternative date night ideas for OP and his wife, you can leave them in our comments.
