Redditor Get's Fed Up Of Catering To Her Younger Sister And Baby, Demands That She Finds A Job And Takes Up Her Own Responsibilities
Family members are the people you expect always to have your back. Not only are you connected to these people by blood, love and shared experiences connect you to them too.
Many people enjoy the benefits of having family members in their corner in different ways. They support businesses and help out with childcare, not to mention the occasional financial assistance they may offer.
However, it’s essential not to take all these for granted or feel entitled to them, as this may cause a wedge between family members.
It’s also vital to reciprocate where necessary, as this helps the family thrive.
We found a story on the AITA subreddit highlighting some of the issues that may arise when family members become entitled to help.
A woman shared on the AITA subreddit that her 23-year-old sister got pregnant, and unfortunately, the baby's father was absent.
OP started to help out as often as she could, despite her low income. However, her sister wasn't helping as she refused to get a job, even when their mother offered to take care of the baby.
OP had spent the majority of her life taking care of her siblings due to their mother’s busy schedule and their irresponsible father. However, she wasn't planning to do this anymore until her sister got a job.
OP’s resolve led her sister to anger, and she didn't hesitate to call her names, leading OP to ask the AITA question.
Check out what other Redditors thought below!
Let's dig into the details...
Reddit.comOP explained that she comes from a very dysfunctional family where finances have always been a problem. In addition, her sister ended up getting pregnant, thus putting more strain on their already depleted finances.
Reddit.comNow, OP is demanding that her sister pass the childcare responsibilities to their mom and go look for a job or else she won't be receiving any more pocket money. Unfortunately, this has caused a rift between both sisters
Reddit.comWe gathered some reactions from the Reddit community for your viewing pleasure:
"You've dedicated a lot of yourself to her; time to shift the focus to your health, peace and prosperity. Best to you."
Reddit.com"NTA She needs to take responsibility for her action."
Reddit.com"Family are flawed just like anyone else, it doesn’t make you obligated to them."
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"Stand your ground and if needed go low or non contact."
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"NTA, some times we need to cut ourselves completely off for family to start taking care of themselves."
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"NTA. If your sister needs help with things she can reach out to some organizations for help."
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"NTA. She must be getting a little desperate pulling the family card, but she needs to be an adult."
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"You can't help those that won't help themselves"
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"You may need to be prepared to cut all ties, or fall for her nonsense again."
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"You are well within your means to do as you please and it might be time you looked towards having a family for yourself as well."
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"You're not leaving her to drown, you already got her to shallower waters, she just needs to stand up."
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"Perhaps you should call child protective services on her if that's what it takes for her to get her off her lazy behind."
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The commenters all agree that OP is NTA. However, they believe that her sister is.
According to them, OP needs to stand her ground, as her sister needs to take responsibility for her actions instead of expecting OP to suffer the consequences of her choices.
Do you think OP should keep helping her sister out? Let us know in the comments section!
