Have you ever had someone make an assumption about you? Or, worse still, have you ever had someone just straight up assume the absolute worst of you?
Well, you're not alone. It happens to most of us at one time or another. But remember this - when someone feels the need to assume the worst of you with no reason, no validation, and without even bothering to investigate. Well, those actions say far more about that person's character than they do about yours.
The nineteen people below know exactly what it feels like to be judged harshly. Scroll down to read their stories.
I went to Walmart while taking a break from painting the nursery. I was fairly spattered in paint and trying to pick a pizza. I heard a lady tell her kid “that is why you go to school so you don’t have a job like that.” There are layers to just how fucked up that was. Not the least of which is house painters can make pretty decent money.
At a past employer someone complained to HR that I was allegedly playing inappropriate Rap music and too loudly at my desk.
I get called into HR to explain myself and told them it wasn’t me…it was the white guy sitting two desks behind me and he came in to admit it because he didn’t think it was such a big deal to be in trouble for.
It was probably the fact that since I was the only black guy where I sit in a certain part of the office, they just naturally assumed it was me.
You can imagine the sheer embarrassment on part of HR that came after.
“Why won’t you date her? Are you gay?”
“No, I just don’t like her”
“But she is prettier than you… ”
Happens strangely often, even if not with those exact words.
I was in target and stopped to look at a really cute swim suit for a baby that was on display in the aisle.
Two older ladies passed by and one of them said “she’s way too young to have a child” nose in the air.
I was in my mid 20s, probably the same age or older than she was when she had kids.
That I’m probably just some uneducated immigrant who can’t speak English.
I’m Mexican, I drive a truck for a living. I make more doing this than putting my bachelor’s to use.
I don’t talk much because I’m tired, grumpy and depressed all of the time.
That I was being horribly disrespectful in a church ceremony.
In reality I was my little sisters Confirmation sponsor (Catholic rite) and was also in end stage liver failure. Was on lots of meds for pain and my brain was marinating in ammonia so I had several head drops (like when you’re falling asleep) during the 2 hour mass. Woman next to me berates me for being ‘so rude and disrespectful’.
Luckily my mom found her afterwards and tore her a new one.
My (only) sister died when I was 15, when people I don’t particularly know or like very well ask me if I have siblings, I usually just say no – I don’t like to talk about it and it’s a conversation killer. But it’s surprising how many have replied with: ‘Oh, only child? You must have been spoiled.’
I love then saying: ‘Well I had a sister but she died.’ The look on their face is priceless? Keep your judgements to yourselves, people.
When I was working at Best Buy in my teens/early 20’s, people would ask me to my face if I could go and get a “male” worker to answer their questions because they felt “more comfortable” asking them about it (stuff like game consoles, cameras and equipment, iPods, that was the area I worked in).
The fun part was watching the customers faces malfunction that male coworker would walk them back over to me, because I knew what I was doing in that department and they only knew their stuff when it came to TVs or washers and dryers.
A girl I met for a date on an app once said to me at the end of the date that I should see her again because a guy of my height won’t have many options.
That I’m lazy because I really enjoy video games.
Bitch, I have a full-time job, house, car, wife, and a dog.
I also do most of the cooking, cleaning, dog-walking, and general chores around the house because my wife works crazy hours.
Lazy my ass.
That I was stupid enough not to figure out that the guy I had a crush on in middle school was paid to go on a date with me as a joke.
10+ years later I’m still pissed.
Though based on how he’s doing now I dodged a real bullet there lmao
I was hanging out with a friend and it had been about a month after we had met etc, and they said, “The best thing about you is that you’re happy being mediocre.”
This felt especially bad as at that time in my life, I had just had a string of failures and was already pretty down.
I am a German living abroad so i have a German accent.
Also since i have had a receding hairline since my teens i have a short hair cut.
So yeah you’d be surprised how many times held me for a Nazi.
My father and I were in Prague when we heard an English woman say to her friend, about us, ”they look so British they can’t be British”, which I don’t think was a compliment.
Okay, we were British but I think that was a bit uncalled for.
I have ADHD so I talk fast, I’m super tall and lanky and also suffer from all year around allergies.
Multiple times I’ve been told I have a cocaine addiction.
Just because I have these muscular fuckular forearms, babes are always asking me to twist the caps off of everything.
The truth, I have really soft under hands, and caps tear me up really good.
Well… There was the time I was an engineering student at a very well respected school and a mother told her son to make sure to get good grades so he didn't end up working in a movie theater like me. To my face.
I liked working there and did it because I was early in college and needed some extra cash.
I guess everyone that works at a movie theater is just a dumbass then instead of high school/college kids like we all were.
So that was pretty shit.
I have an undercut for my hair and wear it to the side, it almost hits my shoulder. I get misgendered all the time because of this.
Apparently people look right beyond the facial hair and just call me miss, ma’am, lady, or whatever. Pretty much whenever this happens I just laugh it off because its kinda funny honestly and people make mistakes. I make sure they don’t feel bad about it when they realize it or just let them go and not correct them, its whatever.
But sometimes people get shitty and try to argue with me about why do I look like a girl. So I’d say that's pretty fuckin rude.
The assumption is whatever, just continuing to pester and get shitty to me about it is what I think is really rude about the whole thing.
That I can’t possibly be smart enough to do my job (security side of tech) because I’m an attractive woman. (Not assuming here – have had guys say this to me explicitly.)
It did help quickly weed out the assholes while I was dating, though.