They're selfish they don't feel remorseful over hurting people.
They feel no remorse for how they’ve hurt others
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Selfish people don't bother listening to your troubles.
When anything that happens to them is the worst thing in the world and whatever happens to you is not that bad and a waste of time talking about or dealing with.
“I know your mom died a month ago but my best friend of 3 years died too so I don’t see why you are so sad all of the time.”
I think narcissism and selfishness go hand-in-hand so there you go.
They think they're always right.
Doesn’t think they’re wrong in the slightest bit. They can’t shoulder any bit of responsibility
Selfish people do this at a potluck.
They bring nothing to the potluck but are first in line.
They want all the credit.
They don’t remember the times people helped them, but remember clearly all the times they have helped others.
No explanation needed.
They want all the attention.
They respond with how worse their situation is when you’re sharing your problems with them. No try for help or listening, just trying to draw attention on their side
They can't return favors
They gladly take any favours you do for them, but when asked if they could reciprocate once, they get defensive and or aggressive and act like you’re the selfish one for daring to expect something in return.
It doesn’t make you a bad person to expect reciprocation in a relationship with someone else, romantic or platonic. Relationships are give and take and that makes them healthy. It’s not entitlement to expect kindness if you give kindness. If you’re the only one giving, you’re being taken advantage of.
Selfish people are drama queens.
Every bad thing you do to them is drama-worthy
Stop mingling with this kind of person.
If you are in a group and there is one person that is constantly interrupting the middle of what you or anyone else is saying generally to brag about themselves with a ‘one-upper’ story, is generally a precursor to stop associating with them. I’ve met too many of them in my days and they are more often than not happy to throw you under the bus whenever the opportunity arises.
Selfish people don't hold themselves accountable.
If they refuse to take responsibility for their actions
It's always about them when it's supposed to be about you.
They have that superpower to lead everything back to themselves. Even when you’re actually talking about your own life or a specific problem of yours, they somehow make it that you start talking about them instead without even changing the topic.
It's hard to have conversations with selfish people.
Conversations don’t feel like conversations.
They are one sided talks about what they want, their thoughts, their life, their priorities, etc.a
They'll never admit their faults even when it's obvious that they're in the wrong.
They never admit when they are wrong even if there is physical evidence!
Selfish people always play the victim card.
When they always play the victim card. 99% of the time they only place themselves in the victim seat by ignoring all the effort or cost other people have to endure and only focus on what they go through them selves.
How to detect selfish people at the supermarket
Cliche answer but I have found the “return the shopping cart” test to be pretty accurate. It is such a small thing, but it does tell you if a person thinks small things like that matter.
Why offer at all?
They’re surprised and disgruntled when you accept what they’ve offered.
Selfish people are often rude to service staff.
They’re rude to waitstaff or just staff and employees in general.
Or if they’re situational awareness is severely lacking and they don’t seem to have a problem with it.
These people are very annoying.
For me it’s people who listen to loud tik tok in public. Especially in relatively silent places.
Selfish people think children are an investment.
People who have kids on purpose, and then act like their kids owe them (well above and beyond basic kindness and human respect) for the rest of their lives.
We, ourselves, can recognize selfish behavior and choose the people we want in our lives. We shouldn't try changing other people.
So if it's a friend or a partner who's inherently selfish, perhaps it's time to reconsider the relationship. Maybe it's time to think about whether it's worth keeping these people in your life.