Man Seeks Advice On How To Salvage His Marriage As His Wife Is Soft Cheating With Her Female Best Friend

"I don't want to leave my wife, can we salvage this?"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• October 26, 2023

Cheating depends entirely on the circumstances and is subjective and contextual. Many would contend that this is just plain dishonesty.

First things first, let's clarify and define what constitutes cheating. Phrases like "soft cheating," "cyber infidelity," and "micro-cheating" allude to fewer forms of deception that are ultimately dishonest but are not typically classified as adultery.

This involves behaving in ways that are inappropriate for a partner, including flirting, even when the offending party has no intention of leaving the relationship. Social media not only makes "soft-cheating" and "cyber infidelity" possible, but it may also facilitate them.

Internet users who participate in online forums and messaging in order to access sexual content are committing "cyber infidelity." These acts are made possible by the nature of scrolling and digesting large quantities of content at once.

Maybe it's the easiness that makes this type of "cheating" easier to get away with. Because it's become easier to hide anything on our phones, it's easy to ignore or deny engaging with content that our significant other doesn't approve of. 

The OP of today's story says his wife is cheating with her newly found best friend. This best friend happens to be his friend's wife, and they do a lot of touchy things together.

OP's wife even confessed to him that she and the friend's wife had slept in the same bed and that they had touched each other inappropriately. OP came online to seek advice as he doesn't want things to get out of hand.

The OP writes

The story kicks off

They send romantic texts to each other

How can the OP make it stop?

In summary...

My wife of 6 years has repeatedly become emotionally romantic with her best friend and I have recently discovered they are still more touchy than I thought. How can I make this stop?

And the comments roll in...

This Redditor would leave

It's giving middle school vibes

Being raised in a strict religion

The OP shares more details in the comments:

I think my post makes me seem more ok with this than I really am because of the "not kissing on the mouth" stuff. I also agree that "soft cheating" was the wrong phrase. I really mean she is having an affair, but I really doubt they've had sex for a lot of reasons I don't want to get into.

I brought that "no mouth" line up because Sarah has said it a couple of times as if that was a line that she had on her mind that she couldn't cross. I don't think that's a good line, I am just conveying the situation. I think that was their mental gymnastics for justifying their "friendship".

The OP can't fix this

She's in love with her friend

A full physical affair

She's coming out and exploring

These two women have been acting like they are in love for a while, and many Redditors say that it is obvious. Some said that OP's wife just might be a lesbian or bisexual but religion has led them to believe that same-sex love isn't possible.

As a result, they are now looking for other justifications for their actions. Tell us what you think about this story by leaving your thoughts in the comments.

Maryjane