Cruel Mother Won't Attend Daughter's Wedding Because Stepdaughter Wasn't Invited, Revealing Her Clear Favoritism

Family relationships are so complex. No one can tell if something is strictly right or wrong based on one event.

However, some standard norms are implied, and sometimes people need to be reminded of them. Recently, a Reddit user shared her family's story online and asked for opinions.

The OP explained the relationship between her and the biological father of her daughter ended on bad terms. Despite OP's efforts to shield their children from their conflict, the father embarked on a campaign to turn the children against her, aiming to win their allegiance.

Although he failed to alienate them from their mother entirely, he did manage to create a rift between OP and her biological daughter. Attempts at reconciliation through therapy were unsuccessful, as the daughter ceased participation once she was old enough to refuse.

OP remarried when her biological daughter was 13 and got a stepdaughter two years younger than her biological daughter. The daughters didn't get along from the beginning.

Now in their mid-20s, the daughters' relationship is still poor. The biological daughter's upcoming wedding has become a new source of familial tension.

The OP assumed that the stepdaughter would be invited to the ceremony at least. However, during a discussion about the wedding, the biological daughter revealed that her stepsister was not going to be invited at all.

She explained her decision by stating a desire for an intimate event. This reasoning struck OP as insincere, especially since the guest list included distant acquaintances.

When pressed, the biological daughter bluntly stated that her stepsister "is not family." In response, the OP argued that if the stepsister was not considered family, neither should the stepfather and stepsiblings, indirectly implying her own exclusion as well.

This led to a heated argument with the biological daughter, who then informed other family members of the disagreement, causing them to criticize OP for choosing not to attend her own daughter's wedding.