One of the most essential life skills for kids to learn is consent. But, consent isn't just about what you do to others, it is about learning to set boundaries for what others can do to you.
As important as it is to teach kids to share and not to touch people when they do not want to be touched, it is also important to teach them to set boundaries for what they allow other people to do to them. It may sound complicated, but it will make the world of difference for helping a kid to set healthy boundaries.
This mom posts her strategies on TikTok and they are simple, easy, and the kids seem so happy!
Kid will? Okay!
Asking them lots of questions and giving them choices is key.
Do they want help or do they want to do it themselves?
Asking what you can do for them, rather than just doing it.
And accepting their answer.
This is the easiest way to model consent and healthy behaviours.
And stopping tickling when they want (and actually stopping!!!)
This teaches them that it is okay to change your mind and revoke consent.
Even simple things like asking if you can hug them...
This teaches them at that they have bodily autonomy and that their opinions matter.
She even shares what to do when the kids can't do something themselves
Keep them involved in the process
!! This is so important!!
Everyone loved the methods shared!
There are more over on her profile, too.
This method removes some of the problems that are usually inadvertently taught: centring the child as the decision maker on themselves
Giving them choices is key!
Giving them choices on essential tasks is a great way for them to still be involved, and teach them consent, but still get it done!
What do you think? Do you wish you had been taught about consent like this? Do you have any strategies? Share them in the comments below.
Find the full videos over on TikTok @once.upon.a.mama.