Society is, unfortunately, obsessed with unattainable beauty standards. This has caused people to edit their photos, get plastic surgeries, and other ways and procedures to alter their appearance.
In a nationwide survey conducted by Allure, 64% of people would put their attention to how attractive a person is. Roughly half of the people think that appearance is what completely defines us.
Do you see it when it comes to dates, job interviews, and overall success? How we perceive beauty truly has a dark side.
This is the topic that surrounds one Reddit thread. A user asked a harsh question.
What are the lesser-known problems of being an unattractive woman?
This question was asked by a user who thinks that people are too obsessed with a person's appearance. According to BaymaxTheBot, people take lots of pictures of themselves, then choose and share the best one on social media.
The author who asked the difficult question mentioned that posting pictures on these platforms are among the easiest ways of getting validation externally. In a way, the likes are a confidence booster.
This is what gets us hooked to social media. People need to constantly seek the feeling of self-comfort, according to the author.
The responses to the question poured in and were overwhelming. So now, let's take a look at the harsh reality of being unattractive.
Even check-ups about a sinus infection would still end up in discussions about her weight. She says it's completely unnecessary unless it's something that will clear up her sickness.
She was overweight for about 5 years. When she wrote her post, she already toned down and lost the weight as she was already off the medicationss.
She experienced having body dysmorphia and is receiving treatment. For most of her life, she was treated well.
She started fearing that she would be worthless to society if she gained more weight. Eventually, people started talking about her appearance in a blatant manner.
She is just disgusted. What she has experienced shows that women get devalued for anything except appearances.
They're being told that their confidence is brave. Others would even tell them that they don't have the right to love themselves.
And at times, those recommendations never consider the woman's health. The user even gets unsolicited advice for attracting men.
It's hard for them to get promoted. The good-looking ones only get the best positions.
Sadly, men thought that this woman would be easy to get. That they can easily get sex from her.
Her aunt, who's around 50 years old and ironically doesn't have a man in her life, is asking her how she would attract men with a body like that. Unbelievable.
When she was fat, girls would hit on her boyfriend in her presence. But when she's slim, they'd look down after seeing him and walk away.
Awww, he loved you for what you were on the inside!
This implies that the guy wasn't attracted to her. But he, somehow, pursued her.
They weren't too helpful to her. Moreover, they'd only want her company when they need something.
Sadly, people would say that she's just jealous. Ugly people get bullied a lot as well.
To add insult to injury, these mean people think that unattractive women have no right to get attracted to or date attractive people.
That's why they would say something along the lines of this:
I admire your self-confidence.
He'd say that you're obsessed with him. And the only reason is that they want to make the other girls laugh.
People would tell her that she'll find the right man eventually. Still, she thinks about her teacher who resembles her.
This was 50 years old. She has never been married and lives by herself with two cats.
They are likely the ones who will likely judge or get judged for their looks. Allure mentions that millennials belong to the mean-girl generation.
Sadly we're judgemental creatures. It is in our blood to judge even if it's not our intention.
Fortunately, 84% responded that they're trying to be less judgemental. So if you feel like saying something that would hurt someone, always think twice.