30 Heartbreaking Responses To A Question About Being An Unattractive or "Ugly" Woman Posted on Reddit

by May

Society is, unfortunately, obsessed with unattainable beauty standards. This has caused people to edit their photos, get plastic surgeries, and other ways and procedures to alter their appearance.

In a nationwide survey conducted by Allure, 64% of people would put their attention to how attractive a person is. Roughly half of the people think that appearance is what completely defines us.

Do you see it when it comes to dates, job interviews, and overall success? How we perceive beauty truly has a dark side.

This is the topic that surrounds one Reddit thread. A user asked a harsh question.

What are the lesser-known problems of being an unattractive woman?

This question was asked by a user who thinks that people are too obsessed with a person's appearance. According to BaymaxTheBot, people take lots of pictures of themselves, then choose and share the best one on social media.

The author who asked the difficult question mentioned that posting pictures on these platforms are among the easiest ways of getting validation externally. In a way, the likes are a confidence booster.

This is what gets us hooked to social media. People need to constantly seek the feeling of self-comfort, according to the author.

The responses to the question poured in and were overwhelming. So now, let's take a look at the harsh reality of being unattractive.

The question

The question
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People, especially men, are rude to these people.

People, especially men, are rude to these people.
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A skinny girl who dresses down is cute and fashionable. The poster who did the same thing was told that she was lazy and isn't concerned about her looks.

A skinny girl who dresses down is cute and fashionable. The poster who did the same thing was told that she was lazy and isn't concerned about her looks.
via: loalenatrice, Andres Ayrton
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Someone got attracted to the looks of the Reddit user, but she thinks it's a joke.

Someone got attracted to the looks of the Reddit user, but she thinks it's a joke.
via: taco_h0e, Callum Shaw

A fat woman mentioned that 90% of her doctor's visits would have discussions about her weight.

Even check-ups about a sinus infection would still end up in discussions about her weight. She says it's completely unnecessary unless it's something that will clear up her sickness.

A fat woman mentioned that 90% of her doctor's visits would have discussions about her weight.
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An attractive woman gained a lot of weight because of her medication.

She was overweight for about 5 years. When she wrote her post, she already toned down and lost the weight as she was already off the medicationss.

She experienced having body dysmorphia and is receiving treatment. For most of her life, she was treated well.

She started fearing that she would be worthless to society if she gained more weight. Eventually, people started talking about her appearance in a blatant manner.

She is just disgusted. What she has experienced shows that women get devalued for anything except appearances.

An attractive woman gained a lot of weight because of her medication.
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A user mentioned that even if her significant other tells her that she's beautiful, she would still end up comparing herself to more attractive women.

A user mentioned that even if her significant other tells her that she's beautiful, she would still end up comparing herself to more attractive women.
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Overweight women are often looked down upon.

They're being told that their confidence is brave. Others would even tell them that they don't have the right to love themselves.

Overweight women are often looked down upon.
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A user mentions that she spends loads of time dressing up nicely only to see more attractive women once she goes outside.

A user mentions that she spends loads of time dressing up nicely only to see more attractive women once she goes outside.
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You become invisible to friends when they're having fun.

You become invisible to friends when they're having fun.
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Unattractive women often get unsolicited health and weight loss advice.

And at times, those recommendations never consider the woman's health. The user even gets unsolicited advice for attracting men.

Unattractive women often get unsolicited health and weight loss advice.
via: loalenatrice, Andres Ayrton

A woman was told that she should be thankful that any man would want to sleep with her and invalidated her when she thinks that she deserves a relationship with respect.

A woman was told that she should be thankful that any man would want to sleep with her and invalidated her when she thinks that she deserves a relationship with respect.
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Unattractive women have it tough in the workplace.

It's hard for them to get promoted. The good-looking ones only get the best positions.

Unattractive women have it tough in the workplace.
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Most men think that unattractive women only look for validation through sex.

Sadly, men thought that this woman would be easy to get. That they can easily get sex from her.

Most men think that unattractive women only look for validation through sex.
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The job opportunities are limited.

The job opportunities are limited.
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This unattractive woman was exhausted of people trying to fix her.

Her aunt, who's around 50 years old and ironically doesn't have a man in her life, is asking her how she would attract men with a body like that. Unbelievable.

This unattractive woman was exhausted of people trying to fix her.
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Ugly women generally don't get sympathy like what cute women get.

Ugly women generally don't get sympathy like what cute women get.
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A Reddit user feels bad for her partner because he's in a relationship with an unattractive woman such as her.

A Reddit user feels bad for her partner because he's in a relationship with an unattractive woman such as her.
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An overweight woman's observation

When she was fat, girls would hit on her boyfriend in her presence. But when she's slim, they'd look down after seeing him and walk away.

An overweight woman's observation
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A woman who lost weight after getting married was getting awkward comments from people.

Awww, he loved you for what you were on the inside!

This implies that the guy wasn't attracted to her. But he, somehow, pursued her.

A woman who lost weight after getting married was getting awkward comments from people.
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An unattractive woman noticed that she got another set of treatment, which was way different from her attractive friends.

They weren't too helpful to her. Moreover, they'd only want her company when they need something.

An unattractive woman noticed that she got another set of treatment, which was way different from her attractive friends.
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A woman, who was once an ugly teen, wasn't believed when she says that some other girl is being hard on her.

Sadly, people would say that she's just jealous. Ugly people get bullied a lot as well.

A woman, who was once an ugly teen, wasn't believed when she says that some other girl is being hard on her.
via: Cute_Mousse_7980, M.
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Women who are unattractive would settle for guys who are interested in them, even if they're terrible people.

Women who are unattractive would settle for guys who are interested in them, even if they're terrible people.
via: thanarealnobody, Zhivko Minkov

When it's time to take a picture, the unattractive girl only gets to snap the camera and won't be on any photo.

When it's time to take a picture, the unattractive girl only gets to snap the camera and won't be on any photo.
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It hurts when people would prefer the company of your best friend because she's more beautiful than you.

It hurts when people would prefer the company of your best friend because she's more beautiful than you.
via: blopdab, Claudia Wolff

Unattractive ladies get called sir in stores. Also, they can't add more to the conversation, particularly if it's about getting hit by men. Because it has never happened before.

Unattractive ladies get called sir in stores. Also, they can't add more to the conversation, particularly if it's about getting hit by men. Because it has never happened before.
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People always perceive ugly and chubby girls as stupid and uninteresting.

To add insult to injury, these mean people think that unattractive women have no right to get attracted to or date attractive people.

People always perceive ugly and chubby girls as stupid and uninteresting.
via: dallasdina, Daniela Dávila

People can't say ugly directly.

That's why they would say something along the lines of this:

I admire your self-confidence.
People can't say ugly directly.
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Guys will lie and use an unattractive girl.

He'd say that you're obsessed with him. And the only reason is that they want to make the other girls laugh.

Guys will lie and use an unattractive girl.
via: Krazygirl1234, Kat Smith

"I'm not attracted to women like you." He says to an overweight woman.

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A 21-year-old woman thinks that she'll never get married.

People would tell her that she'll find the right man eventually. Still, she thinks about her teacher who resembles her.

This was 50 years old. She has never been married and lives by herself with two cats.

A 21-year-old woman thinks that she'll never get married.
via: daydreaming-g, Ekaterina

The stats show that millennials will have it though if they're unattractive.

They are likely the ones who will likely judge or get judged for their looks. Allure mentions that millennials belong to the mean-girl generation.

Sadly we're judgemental creatures. It is in our blood to judge even if it's not our intention.

Fortunately, 84% responded that they're trying to be less judgemental. So if you feel like saying something that would hurt someone, always think twice.

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