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Woman Is Upset Because She Was Not Invited To Her Brother’s Wedding, Despite Paying For The Whole Wedding

by Maryjane

Planning a wedding isn’t an easy task as it involves the battle of deciding who gets invited, who will be a groomsman or a bridesmaid, who is only there for the ceremony, and so forth. One redditor shared how she took on a tremendous part in making her sibling's wedding a reality but was not actually involved with it, which was disturbing.

Certain kinds of family drama that come with planning a wedding never help things. The Redditor named u/Downtown-Bowler-8987 told her story to the r/AmITheA-Hole community, inquiring as to whether she was wrong to feel upset for not being involved in her brother’s wedding, despite being the person paying for it.

According to the story, the OP is a former military officer who is now a wealthy pilot, earning around £150,000 per year. She was raised along with her younger brother and was thought to share and help each other out.

Her brother earns around £35,000 yearly and, since they have no parents, the OP feels like she should assist, as she has assisted on many occasions previously and wouldn't mind doing it once more.

But, this time around, her brother requested monetary assistance, and she promised £25,000, but she felt upset for not being involved with any of the decisions. The sister-in-law's family were heavily involved with everything while she wasn't so much as a bridesmaid, nor a maid of honor, but just a guest.

A lady has shared a story of how she wasn't involved in decisions despite being the one paying

A lady has shared a story of how she wasn't involved in decisions despite being the one payingChris Martin (not the actual photo)

Now, she felt like an ATM. and when she confronted her brother about it, he said that she's not their parents and since she can't replace them, she shouldn’t be involved. Here is the story in full:

The story begins...

The story begins...Downtown-Bowler-8987

A good job

A good jobDowntown-Bowler-8987

Through the years...

Through the years...Downtown-Bowler-8987
Downtown-Bowler-8987

Contribution time

Contribution timeDowntown-Bowler-8987

Bearing the costs

Bearing the costsDowntown-Bowler-8987

Being involved in the decisions

Being involved in the decisionsDowntown-Bowler-8987

AITA?

AITA?Downtown-Bowler-8987

Further information

Further informationDowntown-Bowler-8987

Breaking it down

Breaking it downDowntown-Bowler-8987

The OP explained more in details about the whole story saying that she felt like an ATM to them.

Related

RelatedDowntown-Bowler-8987

Having fertility problems

Having fertility problemsDowntown-Bowler-8987

Me and my brother are close

Me and my brother are closeDowntown-Bowler-8987

The engagement party

The engagement partyDowntown-Bowler-8987

Not showing up

Not showing upDowntown-Bowler-8987

My husband is supportive

My husband is supportiveDowntown-Bowler-8987

I deserve some recognition

I deserve some recognitionDowntown-Bowler-8987

Individuals continued to ask more questions after the post ended, which prompted a few updates.

Op likewise added that it's anything but a one-sided relationship as her brother was always there for her emotionally and they are close.

The post was moderately short, but it immediately got a few more updates as individuals began asking questions

The post was moderately short, but it immediately got a few more updates as individuals began asking questionsSarah Nichols (not the actual photo)

Time to talk with the couple

Time to talk with the coupleDowntown-Bowler-8987

Traditionally...

Traditionally...Downtown-Bowler-8987

My SIL reply...

My SIL reply...Downtown-Bowler-8987

Not asking for much

Not asking for muchDowntown-Bowler-8987

The discussion with the SIL went nowhere, and everything went south when the OP got a call from the SIL's mom, requesting that she chip in on their honey moon. She snapped and said she was paying for the whole wedding despite not being involved, which the mother had no idea about.

Furthermore, after speaking with her sibling, she was reassured that her efforts were valued, but neither the SIL nor her family truly understood the extent to which the OP helped. The post got almost 17,000 upvotes and 2.5K comments, along with more than 50 Reddit awards.

The conversation is leading nowhere

The conversation is leading nowhereDowntown-Bowler-8987

Then, the ice got broken

Then, the ice got brokenDowntown-Bowler-8987

She definitely lost it...

She definitely lost it...Downtown-Bowler-8987

Let's be clear here

Let's be clear hereDowntown-Bowler-8987

The default assumption

The default assumptionDowntown-Bowler-8987

Eventually, the two agreed that OP would simply go as a guest, but she would halt her financial aid but still help with certain things. They’ll still see each other, but this move was best for everybody.

Individuals online came to the conclusion that the OP isn't the problem here because she was very supportive.

Bank of sister is paying

Bank of sister is payingDowntown-Bowler-8987

Smoothing things over

Smoothing things overDowntown-Bowler-8987

Attending as a guest

Attending as a guestDowntown-Bowler-8987

It's over to you now

It's over to you nowDowntown-Bowler-8987

Just going to be a sister now...

Just going to be a sister now...Downtown-Bowler-8987

The pressure and obligations

The pressure and obligationsDowntown-Bowler-8987

So many things are involved in planning a wedding and arrangements need to be made, such as settling on gifts, venues, dishes, and a lot of different things. And remember that this must be a collaboration, as there are two individuals involved here.

Now you realize how complicated it can quickly become when you’re not involved in the decisions but are expected to pay.

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