Teenager Calls His Brother-In-Law Useless For Playing Video Games Instead Of Being A Father

The BIL made an excuse, saying that it's his only day off.

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• Published in Interesting
• February 2, 2023

In most families, childcare has always been a maternal role. Although it's better for moms to share the duties with their husbands, men would rather leave everything to their better halves while they watch TV or even play games.

In reality, most men would rather spend time on their interests than perform childcare roles. It's always the mother who changes the diapers, feeds the babies with milk, puts them to sleep, and more.

And when these kids grow up, moms do not teach the importance of gender equality. The cycle continues, so even today, we have men who never do regular housework.

When it's the men who need to care for kids, they call it "babysitting." That's why one teenage Redditor snapped at her brother-in-law.

She tells the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) subreddit that she called her brother-in-law useless because he would rather play video games than do his duties as the father of his kids.

This happened when her sister asked her to babysit for her kids because no other people could do it. When she was cleaning the baby's diaper, she asked her other siblings to get snacks from their father because it'll take time to clean up the baby.

They did approach their dad, but the man just told them to get snacks from her. This made her snap and throw an insult at her brother-in-law.

The original poster (OP) mentioned that her sister has emergency work that day.

That's why the OP was asked to watch over her sister's kids.

Her brother-in-law did not even bother giving snacks to his children. That's why she snapped.

Most of her family members do not agree with what she did. The OP's dad is on her side, though.

Although the OP doesn't get paid, she's happy to do this for her sister.

A day has passed, and nothing has happened between her and her sister's family.

The community agrees with the OP—her BIL is indeed useless.

Others want to emphasize that you can't call it babysitting if you're caring for your own child.

The BIL made the community mad for calling it babysitting instead of parenting.

Even her sister and her mom are locked in the obsolete belief that only women do childcare duties.

The BIL is both a bad husband and a bad father.

Some Redditors are voicing their thoughts on leaving husbands who box their wives in traditional roles of women.

It's not just the BIL who sucks. The OP's sister is in the wrong too.

A Redditors feels that it's not an abusive relationship. But you cannot deny that her husband is useless.

Some Redditors feel that something is wrong with the OP's family.

The OP doesn't need to say sorry for calling out bad behavior.

The OP's sister is pointing her anger at the wrong person.

This man needs to pull more weight, especially since he only works part time.

Only the OP and her dad aren't the a-holes here.

It's okay for parents to play video games as long as they know how to balance it with parenting.

The moment the man sad "babysit," it's clear who's the real problem.

Men like the OP's BIL need to understand that a man caring for his own kids isn't called. He needs to consider it as parenting too.

OP wouldn't have snapped if he had given snacks to his children. It was an easy thing to do, but he prioritized his video games over his kids.

What a bad father.

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