Dad Makes His Daughter Clean After Christmas Celebration As A Punishment For A Gift She Gave To Her Stepmother
Divorces are always tough, especially on the kids. Some people remain in dysfunctional marriages, and it is hard to say if it is better than divorce.
The most common reason is the kids. But kids sense that something is wrong, and they can see what’s going on. Living in a dysfunctional family is also damaging to their well-being.
So, is it better to stay in a bad marriage or get a civilized divorce? The second option sure sounds better, but is civilized divorce obtainable?
Most people will disagree. There are just too many emotions involved, and most of it is hatred.
And that especially goes for marriages that ended due to adultery. There are, however, some shiny examples of two ex-spouses remaining on good terms for the sake of their children.
But, sadly, there are not many. Our story is about one of the couples whose separation obviously didn’t go so well.
OP has a teenage daughter from his previous marriage who is not thrilled with her stepmother. She tends to act up and often is passive-aggressive, but her stepmother is lenient and doesn’t let OP take action.
This constant lenience has created an atmosphere where the teen doesn’t know boundaries. She gave the stepmother a Christmas present that was simply awful.
OP asks:
His current wife had breast cancer. He has a daughter from a previous marriage who doesn't like her very much. But the new wife always forgave her for her acting up.
His daughter decided to spend Christmas with them and gave her stepmother a present that was...
OP decided to punish his daughter...
Which she didn't like
His daughter left angry and then OP got a call from her mom and his former in-laws. Now he wants to know if he was wrong.
Redditors mostly agree: NTA
It was a viscous move
And the ex-wife had something to do with it for sure...
Lawyer shared his experiences...
and some good advice.
Redditors also shared their experiences:
Children shouldn't be dragged into this...
Never.
Here is a good example of how things should work:
It is all for children's sake.
And about the punishment...
Not really a punishment...
Maybe this is more appropriate:
Because what she did was awful
OP should've made her explain her reasoning
This story has some holes in it. First, why did the OP and his ex-wife get a divorce?
Was the current wife the reason? Was he having an affair with her?
They would provide a better insight into this situation. But no matter what the grounds for divorce were, the daughter’s actions were simply awful.
Maybe the stepmother’s forgiving attitude contributed to the teen’s total unawareness of lines that shouldn’t be crossed. But then again, she is old enough to know the difference between right and wrong…
Some Redditors suggested that the mother had something to do with the present, and it is not so hard to believe. Divorced parents often use their children as a weapon in their conflicts.
This is so damaging for children. If it is the case here, we hope they will stop.
