Lady Shares How Her Manipulative Mom Killed Her Cat And Sent The Body Away Without Letting Her Say Her Goodbyes
A 28-year-old woman came to Reddit with a kind of grief that does not fade, because it was handled like a problem to be managed. Her cat was sent away for cremation hours away, and OP says her mom made sure she never got the chance to say goodbye.
It gets uglier fast. OP is already dealing with a long history of abusive behavior tied to her mom, a messy divorce, and a brother who seems to play along. Even worse, her mom and brother allegedly manipulate OP’s grandmother, while they quietly rearrange daily life, like moving the cats’ food bowls to the end of the garden and bringing in her boyfriend’s dog.
And when OP finally realizes what happened, it is not just about the cat, it is about control.
And here we have the story's headline
The OP starts off by thanking redditors from the bottom of her heart for all the love and support
OP's so hurt and so angry with her mom for a whole host of things, including abusive behavior before the divorce
OP thanks everyone for the support, but you can feel how raw it is since her cat’s body was gone before she could even say goodbye.
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OP's mother and brother have no problem at all manipulating her grandmother
Their baby girl has, for some reason, been sent away to a pet crematory several hours away
OP's mother moved the two cats’ food bowls to the end of the garden and brought in her boyfriend's dog
That is when the details about her mom and brother manipulating her grandmother start to make the cremation story feel less like logistics and more like a power move.
Psychologists specializing in grief often highlight the importance of closure in the grieving process. The daughter's inability to say goodbye to her cat may lead to unresolved grief, which can manifest as anger and resentment towards her mother.
Studies suggest that creating rituals around loss, such as memorials or personal tributes, can help individuals process grief more effectively. Encouraging the daughter to honor her cat's memory in a meaningful way might provide her with a sense of closure and healing.
And the comments from other redditors roll in...
This redditor can't imagine how to feel and they're so sorry for the OP's loss
This redditor is sending so much love to the original poster
The part about the food bowls getting moved and her boyfriend’s dog being brought in makes it clear they were rewriting the home in real time, while OP was left out.
It’s a similar kind of cruelty to the narcissistic mom who skipped her daughter’s gender reveal because her cat was sick.
Manipulative behaviors often stem from deeper psychological issues, such as insecurity or a need for control.
The OP is currently no contact with her mom, her boyfriend, and her brother
This redditor is sending plenty of hugs to the OP
Just do special stuff with the rock until it's pretty firm in your mind
Now OP is no contact with her mom, her boyfriend, and her brother, and the comments are all about how closure would have mattered, but it never happened.
Practical solutions for the daughter involve establishing boundaries and seeking support. Engaging in counseling can be a beneficial step in processing her feelings about her mother's actions and the loss of her cat.
Additionally, journaling about her experiences or speaking with trusted friends can help her articulate her emotions and begin to heal from the trauma of her loss.
If someone did something like that to this redditor, they would absolutely be dead to them
Many Redditors sympathized with the OP for her loss and saw it as a valid reason to go no contact with her mom.
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Emotional expression is crucial for psychological well-being.
Encouraging the daughter to openly express her pain and anger, whether through conversation or creative outlets such as art or writing, can facilitate healing. This process not only validates her emotions but also empowers her to reclaim her narrative in the face of her mother's actions.
The heartbreaking story of a daughter grappling with the loss of her cat at the hands of her manipulative mother highlights the profound impact such familial dynamics can have on emotional health. The mother's actions not only deprived her daughter of a chance to say goodbye but also exemplified a troubling manipulation that can stifle emotional expression and create lasting scars. The daughter may find solace and healing through supportive relationships and professional therapy, which can help her process her feelings of grief and betrayal. Such avenues are crucial for transforming pain into personal growth and resilience, allowing her to reclaim her voice in the face of manipulation.
Her cat did not just get cremated, her goodbye got stolen too.
For another cat-related family showdown, read how her toxic, cat-hating mother-in-law tried to kill their kitten.
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