Man-Child Insists On Having His Mom Cook For Him Daily Until His Wife Finally Had Enough, And Secretly Fed Him Her Food
A good portion of married couples turns to different subreddits for advice. In the absence of impartial family and friends to weigh in on their marriage issues, Reddit is the best place for fair and honest insights.
Husbands and wives ask for strangers' take on their problems whether it be about their finances, careers, priorities, and other deeper conflicts. One of the most prevailing issues lately has been about wives detailing their partners' tendency to run to their moms when something comes up in their marriage.
In short, there is no lack of seemingly well-put-together adults who are secret mama's boys. Don't get me wrong, there is absolutely nothing wrong with loving your mom — it's actually pretty sweet.
However, the men centered in these stories are going above and beyond to show their wives that their moms come first no matter what. This makes for frustrating stories that we read about and an unimaginable headache for their wives who feel guilty and neglected at the same time.
This OP's husband took being a mama's boy to the next level and OP is tired of it. Mickey, the husband, couldn't sing enough praises about his mom's cooking, so much so that he included it in his groom's speech at their wedding.
OP thought Mickey's food preference would change once they got married but she was wrong. He refuses to eat anything that OP cooks and insists on having his mom cook and deliver nightly dinners he could enjoy after work.
Except for weekends of course, where they actually go over to her house just so Mickey could eat breakfast, lunch, dinner, and dessert at his mom's place
His daily routine is to ask OP if his mom has sent his dinner yet and if OP offers him any food she cooked, Mickey would simply say he's already full
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OP was growing tired of cooking food for the two of them and having it wasted because Mickey simply refused anything his mom didn't make for him
So, OP came up with a pretty simple plan
She cooked the same meal Mickey's mom made for him that day and served what she made instead. Soon, enough Mickey was praising his mom's delicious cooking not knowing his wife made it.
OP smiled and told him he was welcome. Mickey stopped eating and OP explained that it was her who made his meal. Mickey got upset for being tricked into eating food he didn't know the origins of and walked out.
He has been posting about what happened on his Facebook but didn't talk to OP that whole night. Should OP feel guilty about how she handled things?
Quickly, Redditors came pouring in to ask OP why she married Mickey in the first place
We are sorely in need of the mother-in-law's version of events and if she's really okay cooking for her married adult son daily
This was the second but not the last question asking OP why she married Mickey
That must have been a difficult maneuver to accomplish
All important questions we'll never know the answers to because OP didn't respond to any of the comments in her post
There's more to Mickey's attitude than food preference; by choosing to only eat the food his mother makes, he is telling OP that she is not good enough for him. OP has a choice here: go along with this farce or realize her self-worth.
Weird is an understatement and we are just scratching the surface of this mother-son dynamic
Will OP really let this be the norm for the rest of their marriage?
Does Mickey have a valid reason for choosing to only eat his mother's food? If not, he is just a manipulative a**hole.
Messing with people's food will automatically make you a jerk but what OP did is justified given how her husband treats her
How OP tolerated this routine for as long as she did will forever baffle me
OP can lay out some ground rule to make her life easier
OP can completely disengage from her husband's odd manipulation tactic and cook whatever she pleases for herself and her friends
If OP sticks to the rules above, and add some choice ones herself, then the problem might just resolve itself
Cooking is a skill honed over many years and to be with someone who can cook well & wants to cook for you is an underrated perk of being in a relationship. It's too bad Mickey can't recognize OP's value.
OP shouldn't feel guilty for what she did because she didn't really do anything that hurt Mickey, only his ego that OP got the better of him. He shouldn't feel too bad, I'm sure his mom will make him his favorite comfort food to get through this trying time.
