Women Share The Wildest Things People Dared To Say To Them While Pregnant
There is a time and a place for everything, but unfortunately, some people simply don't really get or respect that concept. Some people will permit themselves to say anything in any situation possible, they have absolutely no verbal filter, and they end up making a lot of people angry or uncomfortable.
You can't force someone to take a hint because they either get it or don't; there is no in-between, you can't make them shut their mouth and just have to go through with it. Once you find yourself in a similar situation, all you can do is stand around uncomfortably and cringe on the inside.
Women go through a lot of weird stuff while pregnant, from random unwanted comments to "facts" people should have definitely kept for themselves. They never know what they are going to get, so they just wish for the best and hope that people won't be weird around them.
The BuzzFeed Community has been asked the following question: "What's the worst, weirdest, or most unsolicited piece of advice someone gave you while you were pregnant?" People had a lot of interesting replies to the question, scroll down and check them out.
1. "When I was pregnant with our first, I was asked, 'So are you going to have any more?' Let me get this one out first lady, geez."
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2. "Everybody always felt the need to tell me their horrific birth experiences. Everyone. Friends, family, the random lady in the grocery store, everyone."
"I planned to have a home birth and if I ever mentioned it, I was always told I was going to regret my choice and beg for the epidural. No, I did not regret my choice Barbra, I had TWO home births (each baby was well over 10 pounds) and I would do it again!"
—Anonymous, 28, Virginia
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3. "From a male stranger in the street: 'Has your milk come in yet?' Ewwww!"
—Pritchette
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4. "I'm in my second trimester, and at 25 weeks just starting to show in a way that makes it clear I'm pregnant."
"Before that, I was super insecure about my small baby bump. People would say things like 'Wow, you don't look pregnant, you look like you just had a big meal!' or, 'Oh please, my belly is bigger than that and I'm not even pregnant.' I think they were trying to be complimentary but it made me feel really guilty and worried."
—srahs
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5. "I was heavily pregnant and was having lunch with my mum, I was approached by a random male who said to me 'Does that baby need a daddy?' No mate, happily married."
—raecondon35
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6. "I got in the elevator at my work and a lady from a different department I've never seen before got in with me."
"As the doors closed, she noticed that I was pregnant and asked the gender. I said 'It's a girl' and without pausing, she just started in on a rant about how if it was a boy, then I should definitely circumcise him and all her boys were circumcised and she's so glad she did it and listed all the benefits. I stared at her in bewilderment and as the elevator doors started opening again I just said, 'Yeah, but I'm having a girl.' She very perkily quipped, 'Yeah! But now you'll know to circumcise if the next one is a boy!' And she strolled out. I've never seen her again. And no, it would not have been any of her business or well-received if I had been having a boy. Don't tell me what to do with my hypothetical children's genitals."
—arieladventures
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7. "I got married when I was six months pregnant. The wedding was planned before the pregnancy and I still fit into my original dress, as I had a small bump."
"After the ceremony, my stepfather said, 'Are you really going to wear that all day?' You look massive.' Wow. When I look back at my wedding photos, my bump is barely noticeable! And if it was huge, I wouldn't have cared either. Rude!"
—sthomson0288
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8. "I had a lady tell me that I better plan to breastfeed, then began to go into detail about how I need to stimulate my nipples."
"Her granddaughter was breastfed and she knew nine languages, so it’s proven that breastfeeding will increase your baby's intelligence. I had no idea how to respond to this woman."
—Anonymous, 29, Washington
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9. "My coworker many years ago: 'Are you excited about the baby being a boy?' Me: 'Yes, but more excited that he’s healthy!' Her: 'Have you thought about the fact there’s always a penis inside your body?' Me: 'What the French toast?!'"
—baconreclee
10. "My mom went into labor while she was with her father-in-law. As she was leaving for the hospital he said, 'Try to have a boy.'"
—MiaNW8
11. "'Don't raise your arms above your head, because it can cause the umbilical cord to wrap around the baby and strangle it.' It was a really great thing to say to a first-time mom."
—Anonymous, 30, New Jersey
12. "Every time I would talk to my grandma she would do two things: Ask me how much weight I had gained, and tell me stories about women who had miscarriages. I have not spoken to her during my second pregnancy."
—misstylerelaine
13. "I was told not to have a bath when I was pregnant as I would drown the baby!"
14. "My husband and I walked into a furniture store when I was about 37 weeks pregnant with our first child."
"The male sales associate decided it would be appropriate to greet us by asking me if I had just come from the buffet. Needless to say, I was not amused, and afterward, he followed us around the store kissing my ass as we proceeded to buy absolutely nothing."
—AshRHea
15. "'Is the father still in the picture?' As a pickup line. This happened a weird amount of times."
—promising.young.woman
16. "A man pointed to his larger stomach and said, 'I have one of those too'"
—Anonymous, 50, USA
17. "When I was pregnant with my first, a coworker asked about my morning sickness. When I told her I hadn’t really had any, she proceeded to tell me that meant that my baby wasn’t strongly attached to my uterus. It panicked me for a bit before I realized that none of that was true. Why say that to a new mom?!"
—Anonymous, 32, Indiana
18. "Not me but my mom: While she was pregnant with me and my twin brother, a relative of my dad asked my mom if she and her husband could 'have the other one, cause you don't need two' while my mom was six months pregnant."
"To make matters worse, she wasn't joking, and even went as far as showing up at the hospital while my mom was undergoing a C-section to 'Pick one out.'"
—libra-girl
19. "A woman I didn’t know and had never seen before literally ran up to me when I was waiting for the lift at work, pointed at my bump, and shouted, 'That’s a boy, that is! That’s a boy!' and ran off again."
"I gave birth to my daughter six weeks later. This lady was on the phone at the time and still went to the effort of chasing down a stranger to wrongly declare the sex of an unborn baby based on old wives’ tales about carrying a bump high or low. Crazy."
—deweydecimal
20. "When announcing my pregnancy to extended family, my cousin, without children, started going on and on about why I should have a natural birth…'Congratulations' would have sufficed."
—Anonymous, 29, CA
21. "I had an eye checkup while pregnant with my first child. My eye doctor, who is a father, compared babies to parasites within the womb, as they consume all of the nutrients from the mother via the umbilical cord without providing anything in return. I mean, I could see what he was saying, but it was a dark/weird comparison."
—ladedah
Some people are super weird and don't think through the things they say. A simple comment can add to a pregnant woman's stress and make her paranoid, so if you don't have something nice or helpful to say, it's better to say nothing at all.
