Redditor Asks How To Compromise With A Roommate Who Demands Her To Stay In Her Room After Midnight

Living with a roommate who refuses to compromise can be very stressful. This lack of flexibility can create tension in shared living spaces and make daily interactions uncomfortable.

This crisis also happened to a Reddit user, so she reached out to the Reddit community looking for advice. The OP is a 20-year-old female, and she has been living with two friends.

One is Dan, whom she has known since university, and another is a female roommate, aged 21. Before they started to live together, the OP and Dan had an open conversation about nighttime disturbances.

Recalling his past experiences with a previous roommate's loud late-night activities, Dan had expressed his desire for a quieter environment. The OP assured him of her understanding and commitment to maintaining peace.

However, after they moved in, unexpected challenges appeared. Dan expressed his discomfort with the noise that the OP made while brushing her teeth around 2 a.m.

Empathetic to his concerns, the OP began adjusting her nighttime routines, such as tiptoeing and being gentle with bathroom doors, attempting to minimize disruptions. But soon, the situation became even more complicated.

Dan told her that he didn’t want her to leave her room post-midnight at all, attributing his heightened sensitivity to traumas from his childhood. Although the OP has tried to be considerate, her recently diagnosed ADHD poses challenges for consistently adjusting her routines, especially her regular 2 a.m. bedtime.

But she wanted to compromise, so she suggested potential solutions like using the white noise machines or earplugs. Unfortunately, Dan wasn't interested.

Dan's trauma also impacts his ability to contribute to household chores which strains their relationship further. So, the OP is inquiring for advice on how to resolve their differences peacefully.