Did you know that nearly half of the eligible people living in the United States have said that dating has gotten harder in the last decade than ever before? Even worst, the majority of women have reported experiencing harassment from someone they went on a date with.
According to Pew Research: "While single-and-looking men and women report equal levels of dissatisfaction with their dating lives and the ease of finding people to date, women are more likely to say they have had some particularly negative experiences."
Not only that, but when asked, women were twice as likely to site "risk" as a reason dating has become so much harder in the last ten years especially. Other interesting findings came from that research as well, like how most participants in the study said that how much money someone does or doesn't make isn't a relevant factor but how much debt someone has is, as well as how far they live and whether or not they vote Republican (specifically, voting for Trump is a statistical turn-off, apparently!)
The research was conducted in late 2019, before the pandemic, and one of the weirder things to come out was how most men "don't know how to act" on a date in light of the #MeToo movement. Um... great, no wonder all of these tweets exist.
In November of 2019, Texas A&M University’s Memorial Student Center featured an exhibit called "What Were You Wearing?" that aimed to "to shatter the myth that sexual assault can be attributed to a person’s choice in wardrobe." 15 outfits were put on display that represented real stories and were placed along side real stories.
Next to one outfit, a card reads:
"Button-up short sleeve shirt with blue jeans. He was my best friend’s boyfriend’s roommate. My friend told me it was okay to crash on their couch after we had all been drinking. She told me the roommate was ‘cool.’ She told me to just get over it.”
Next to a pair of running shorts and a T-shirt:
“I had been working out, so Nike shorts and a large T-shirt. I’m sure I smelled bad, I even remember thinking that… think about how bad I smell. Because I needed to think about anything but what was happening to me.”
Denise Crisafi, Ph.D., the coordinator for interpersonal violence prevention for the department of Health Promotion hoped the exhibit would help students seek support and understanding, saying:
“In order for us to create meaningful change, we want to make sure that this is a conversation starter for students, that students know that this is an issue that we take seriously on our campus, it’s an issue we’re willing to talk about, and it’s an issue that we’re willing to help individuals with should they want that help and reach out."
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, research shows that spanking is harmful to child development in the long run. The AAP also says to avoid nonphysical punishment that is humiliating, scary or threatening.
Instagram has 13,650 posts with the #womensonlygyms and TikTok has 18 million views for the same hashtag on TikTok. Mint Lounge reports:
"A quick look at these Instagram posts indicates the reasons why women choose to go to a women's only fitness space. These include building a community of like-minded women, finding a safe space to workout, avoiding debilitating gym anxiety, or other, cultural, reasons."
Tara M. Chaplin of the Department of Psychiatry at Yale University School of Medicine did research on whether or not girls emotionally develop faster than boys, age and context do dictate emotional tendencies, Chaplin said:
“Our findings suggest that there are small but significant gender differences in emotion expressions, with larger gender differences emerging at certain ages and in certain contexts.”
Good Therapy reported: "She found that in infancy, the boys and girls exhibited similar emotional displays. However, as the children aged, significant differences emerged."
Chaplin found that the girls internalized their emotions more than the boys, but they also displayed more positive emotions and boys were more likely to exhibit anger and aggression than the girls. However, the variances were only evident when the children were in the presence of strangers and when they were with their parents "the children expressed a wide range of emotions, making the gender differences virtually non-existent."
Per Parents.com: "On average, 2.4 percent of parents are staying at home with their children as of early 2021, up from pre-COVID-19 levels of 1.5 percent, the report notes. An image of the United States map on a colorful background."
The survey conducted by Pew Research determined quite a few interesting things not previously mentioned, including that "vast majorities say that breaking up through technology is mostly unacceptable, and few say they would ‘ghost’ someone."
Technology certainly isn't the reason the dating game has changed... what do you think?