Redditor Seeks Advice On How To Make His GF Stop Bringing Her Dog Into Their Bed

by Damjan

Dog ownership brings on a lot of responsibilities. One of them is properly training them.

But how can you say no to that adorable face, begging for some leftovers or trying to sneak into your bed? It is hard, but it needs to be done.

Boundaries must be set, and consistency is the key. If you occasionally forbid your dog to do something, all training progress is lost.

You will end up with a confused dog that won’t know if something is okay or not (they don’t know much about context). And when the dog is confused, it can start acting up.

One Redditor posted their problem. He wrote: “My girlfriend insists on her dog sleeping in bed with us, but I’m not cool with it!”

And the story perfectly describes what a lack of consistency can do. He and his GF have been together for several months now.

They are getting along nicely, except for one thing: She lets her dog sleep in bed with her.

This leaves him frustrated because (understandable) he wants to cuddle with his GF, not her dog. The dog is still not fully potty-trained and has regular mishaps.

She agreed not to let the dog sleep with them but allowed it on the bed when OP was not around. Read the full story:

OP says:

He and his GF have been together for several months now. They are getting along nicely, except for one thing:

She lets her dog sleep in bed with her. He wants to cuddle with his GF, not her dog.

The dog is still not fully potty-trained, and has regular mishaps.

She agreed not to let the dog sleep with them, but allows it on the bed when OP is not around.

Last night, the dog was particularly upset

They are trying to find a solution

Is OP the A-hole here?

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:

That dog doesn’t sound trained to do much of anything

OP needs to make a decision:

What OP says makes a lot of sense:

Dogs love consistency.

Consistency doesn’t seem to be achievable here

"It is possible to train a dog to only sleep in the bed on command."

But that's not easy to achieve

Is OP ready to play #2 to a dog?

OP should talk with his GF

This is so true:

Beds are for people to get good nights sleep so they can function.

It sounds like she doesn't really know what she is doing here.

Dogs are social animals. That’s the reason we love them so much.

And they get incredibly attached to their owners. That’s why we love them even more.

But they must know boundaries. The dog in question is just a puppy and let’s try to see it from his side.

He has an owner who lets him sleep in her bed, but is now chased away by a newcomer. And when the newcomer is not there, he is allowed on the bed again.

Of course the dog will hate the newcomer and have accidents due to anxiety.