Mom Finally Proves Her Daughter Has Severe Dog Allergies After Years Of Being Gaslit, Accused Of Hating Dogs, And Losing Custody Of Her Daughter
Redditors rallied behind a mom who was made to feel crazy because she believed her daughter had a severe dog allergy. OP's daughter, Clare, has been ill since birth.
OP noted that most of her daughter's symptoms could be caused by an unknown allergy. They consulted every specialist and finally went to an allergist after getting no definitive diagnosis.
The allergist concluded that Clare was allergic to mold and a certain type of weed. They tested for mold every time they moved to a new place, but her daughter's symptoms did not go away.
OP floated the idea that Clare could be allergic to dogs. The response was a deafening jeer that OP must be crazy.
Clare couldn't possibly be allergic to dogs, they all declared. OP must be a dog hater for suggesting such a ludicrous possibility!
Meanwhile, Clare was in and out of hospitals because of her endless symptoms. Doctors tested her for anything they could think of, but they never doubted the original allergens blamed for her illness.
OP was accused of making her daughter sick. Clare was removed from her custody and was put given to a foster family.
Her symptoms didn't go away at the foster home because they also had a dog. OP regained custody of her daughter.
Clare was back to her routine hospital visits until one doctor listened to OP's ideas
u/Life-OkraClare was given another allergy test. Lo and behold, Clare is severely allergic to dogs.
u/Life-OkraAll their troubles — Clare ending up in a foster home, years of sickness, and OP being falsely told that she has Munchausen by Proxy, could have been prevented if they took OP's observations seriously
u/Life-OkraOP took Clare to a rental home and within a week in a dog-free home all of her symptoms disappear.
Clare asked if most people were able to breathe that deeply. OP was heartbroken for her daughter who took her first deep breath at 6 years old.
They gave up their dog and will soon buy a new home. However, OP wants her husband and their family to apologize to her for calling her crazy all those years and making her feel like she was a dog hater.
u/Life-OkraIf your significant other or family thought you capable of doing such a terrible thing to your own child, is an apology years later enough?
radradraddestMaybe all the other possible allergens have been eliminated?
KoumadinOP's instincts allerted her to Clare potentially having dog allergies
Life-Okra
Someone asked OP what happened to their dog after her suspicions were confirmed
Fisceral
Can you really blame a mom who was gaslit for years for not bothering to learn about where the dog was rehomed?
Life-Okra
A Redditor advised OP to go to a lawyer. They have a good chance of winning a case against the allergist who allegedly falsified the original results.
Jpmjpm
Good on OP for not backing down even when her own husband called her crazy and a dog hater
yoga1313
Why was it so bad for OP to suggest that her daughter could have dog allergies? Medical fact is not changed by people's affinity for animals.
justadorkygirl
The accusations were so severe that OP actually lost custody of her daughter. How heartbreaking is that?
NobodyakaGina
Calling OP names and making her question her sanity was counterproductive to finding out what was wrong with Clare's health.
NobodyakaGina
OP's determination to find out what was wrong with her daughter is admirable. She advocated for her even when it seemed that everyone was against her.
Reading OP's post was frustrating, especially when people were more concerned about finding out if OP hates dogs. She spent years being told she was crazy.
Is it so difficult to show her some grace and understand why her focus was solely on her daughter?
