This Redditor Lives In A House Full Of Love, Cats, And Conflict Over A Roommate Who Just Can’t Sleep
A house full of love, four cats, and one roommate who can’t sleep sounds like a cozy setup, until the doors start clicking and the toilet starts sounding like a tiny alarm clock. This Redditor is living in that exact situation, and it’s turning into a nonstop conflict over something as basic as closing things quietly.
There are five people and four cats in the home, and the roommate in school keeps getting woken up by everyday noises, like door closures and bathroom habits. She says it’s not even just the sound sometimes, it’s the vibration that jolts her awake, and after months of trying solutions, she claims she’s losing four to five hours of sleep. The rest of the house has tried a fan, hush bumps, and extra awareness when shutting doors, but she’s still not responding to the roommate chat or private messages.
And the wild part is, the people who live there swear they can’t feel the vibration at all.
After months of complaints, the roommate says she’s losing four to five hours of sleep.
In our house, there are five people and four cats. Everyone there is safely full of love, and I don’t think anyone truly has any malice, but sometimes I do think there’s a lack of consideration and maybe it comes from all of us.
Recently, it’s been an issue where my roommate, who is in school, gets woken up by us closing doors or closing the toilet or anything really. She tried to resolve the problem by turning on a fan in her room to help with the sound, and I tried to help by putting hush bumps on everyone’s door.
But sometimes they don’t work perfectly because it doesn’t stop the click from the door knob, so you have to close it with the awareness that you have to turn the door knob.
After months, she’s still complaining that the noise wakes her up and then she can’t go back to sleep and that she loses out on like four to five hours of sleep, and while I do understand because she’s in school and has a lot going on at this point, it feels medical.
A quick summary of what I sent in our roommate chat was “I’m not trying to come off any kind of way. We’ve tried all these things. Have you considered maybe seeing if a doctor could prescribe you something?”
I know we’re all different people, but personally, the other four people in the house hear a noise and go right back to sleep or don’t wake up at all.
And I don’t want to be disrespectful, but that is my last suggestion to her because I’m not sure how else we can try to be quieter when sometimes it’s by accident… she didn’t respond to that and she’s not responding to anything I’ve said, I even tried to message her privately outside of the roommate chat :( \*\*\*\*
So she said it’s not necessarily the sound but the vibration that jolts her awake. But idk, none of us have felt that, but maybe we’re just oblivious to it.
Here’s how the Reddit community reacted.
You’ve done enough already.
There’s no such thing as a quiet share house.
There are lots of things she can try.
She needs to live alone.
“You’ve done your part.”
This is similar to the lady with ADHD refusing to put the litter box in her room.
NAH.
Sounds like a her problem.
NTA.
Speak with her in private.
Get the girl some headphones.
“Earplugs may be the only option.”
That’s not normal.
When the roommate started blaming door clicks and toilet noises, everyone else tried to quiet down, but cats and shared routines made “quiet” feel impossible.
The fan in her room was supposed to help, and the hush bumps on the doors were supposed to solve it, yet she still says she’s losing hours of sleep.
After months of complaints, OP suggested a medical angle in the roommate chat, and that’s when the conversation basically hit a wall.
Now OP is stuck with a roommate who won’t respond at all, while the rest of the house either sleeps through the noise or doesn’t notice the vibration.
In the end, the OP isn’t trying to win an argument — they’re just trying to live normally without feeling like every door close is a personal attack. Now they’re left wondering if this is a solvable roommate issue, a medical one, or just one of those shared-living problems where everyone’s doing their best… and it’s still awkward anyway.
Nobody in that house can agree on what counts as “quiet,” and that roommate conflict is not going away.
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