This Redditor Lives In A House Full Of Love, Cats, And Conflict Over A Roommate Who Just Can’t Sleep
Reddit user ‘Nervous_Ad_2867’ lives in a busy household with five people and four cats, and while it’s overflowing with love, harmony isn’t always guaranteed. They genuinely believe no one has bad intentions, but lately it’s felt like consideration is getting a little… lost in the laundry pile.
The main issue centers on one roommate who’s currently in school and says she’s constantly being woken up by everyday household noises. Doors closing, toilets flushing, and general life sounds are apparently enough to ruin her sleep for the night.
To be fair, the household has tried to fix the problem. The roommate turned on a fan for white noise, and the OP even installed hush bumps on the doors to soften the sound.
Unfortunately, hush bumps aren’t miracle workers, especially when door knobs still click unless you consciously twist them every single time. After months of complaints, the roommate says she’s losing four to five hours of sleep and can’t fall back asleep once woken.
The OP empathizes but feels stuck, since the other four people in the house either don’t wake up at all or fall right back asleep. At that point, it started to feel less like a roommate issue and more like a medical one.
In the group chat, the OP gently suggested that maybe a doctor could help, stressing they weren’t trying to be rude. That message was met with total silence, even after the OP followed up privately.
At the end of the day, the OP doesn’t want to be disrespectful, just realistic. You can tiptoe around life only so much before gravity, door knobs, and toilets remind you that houses do, in fact, make noise.
After months of complaints, the roommate says she’s losing four to five hours of sleep.
In our house, there are five people and four cats. Everyone there is safely full of love, and I don’t think anyone truly has any malice, but sometimes I do think there’s a lack of consideration and maybe it comes from all of us.
Recently, it’s been an issue where my roommate, who is in school, gets woken up by us closing doors or closing the toilet or anything really. She tried to resolve the problem by turning on a fan in her room to help with the sound, and I tried to help by putting hush bumps on everyone’s door.
But sometimes they don’t work perfectly because it doesn’t stop the click from the door knob, so you have to close it with the awareness that you have to turn the door knob.
After months, she’s still complaining that the noise wakes her up and then she can’t go back to sleep and that she loses out on like four to five hours of sleep, and while I do understand because she’s in school and has a lot going on at this point, it feels medical.
A quick summary of what I sent in our roommate chat was “I’m not trying to come off any kind of way. We’ve tried all these things. Have you considered maybe seeing if a doctor could prescribe you something?”
I know we’re all different people, but personally, the other four people in the house hear a noise and go right back to sleep or don’t wake up at all.
And I don’t want to be disrespectful, but that is my last suggestion to her because I’m not sure how else we can try to be quieter when sometimes it’s by accident… she didn’t respond to that and she’s not responding to anything I’ve said, I even tried to message her privately outside of the roommate chat :( \*\*\*\*
So she said it’s not necessarily the sound but the vibration that jolts her awake. But idk, none of us have felt that, but maybe we’re just oblivious to it.
Here’s how the Reddit community reacted.
You’ve done enough already.
There’s no such thing as a quiet share house.
There are lots of things she can try.
She needs to live alone.
“You’ve done your part.”
NAH.
Sounds like a her problem.
NTA.
Speak with her in private.
Get the girl some headphones.
“Earplugs may be the only option.”
That’s not normal.
In the end, the OP isn’t trying to win an argument — they’re just trying to live normally without feeling like every door close is a personal attack. Now they’re left wondering if this is a solvable roommate issue, a medical one, or just one of those shared-living problems where everyone’s doing their best… and it’s still awkward anyway.
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