Woman Refuses Family Trip After Her Sister-In-Law Has A Meltdown While Pet Sitting
Family interaction can be delicate, especially when it comes to supporting one another during difficult times. Sometimes, family members may feel overwhelmed or struggle to cope with certain situations.
In some cases, their reactions can be hurtful or dismissive, leading to feelings of frustration and hurt. When entrusting a family member's pet to a relative or friend, clear communication about responsibilities and expectations is essential.
It's also crucial to consider the caregiver's ability to handle potential challenges and provide necessary care. In situations where the caregiver struggles, open discussion can help find solutions, such as arranging alternative care or providing additional support.
The OP of today's story is feeling hurt and frustrated with her in-laws for dismissing her feelings and not taking responsibility for their daughter's actions. They were going on a trip, and they actually left their pets with OP's sister-in-law, who offered to look after them.
Three days into the trip, during a dinner with OP's parents to celebrate her degree, OP's husband got a call from her having a full-blown panic attack. It escalated to the point where OP's in-laws got involved and offered to drive a four-hour round trip to their house to rescue her and take the pets to their house.
What annoyed the OP the most in all this was that her in-laws were taking sides. You see, taking sides in family matters can create tension and affect relationships.
Read the entire story below to find out how everything played out.
The OP writes...
OP's SIL was going to look for jobs while watching their pets
She said she couldn’t cope walking the dog because he “pulls on the lead,” which causes "decision paralysis"
These are living, breathing animals the OP loves deeply, and they were thousands of miles away
They bulldozed over OP's husband, defended her, and basically made him feel like the problem
The OP wasn't willing to spend almost a week pretending everything is fine with people who showed zero empathy
Skipping the trip will cause more drama but the OP wants to know if she'll be the AH
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:
I might be the AH because I’m refusing to go on a family trip for my mother-in-law’s birthday. Some people might see that as overreacting or unfair, especially since my sister-in-law wasn’t paid to look after our pets and might have been struggling. Me not going directly affects my husband and will upset him and could upset his family.
Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say
A perfect response for the OP to give
OP's SIL shouldn't have agreed to petsit the dog
No is a complete and full sentence
This Redditor just wants to know what decision paralysis is...
The fact that OP's sister-in-law waited until she was having a full-blown panic attack before reaching out for help is just outrageous. The OP felt blindsided and stressed, especially being thousands of miles away and unable to directly help.
And the way OP in-laws dismissed her concerns and defended their daughter's actions without acknowledging the gravity of the situation must have been particularly hurtful. Given this context, it's understandable that OP feels hesitant about attending the upcoming family trip, and Redditors understood that.
Of course, she was declared not the AH and that's a wrap.
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