Lady Dishes Out An Ultimatum To Friend As Caring For Pet Bird Becomes A Burden
Helping a friend care for a pet can be a kind and generous act, but it's essential to establish clear limits and expectations from the start. Before agreeing to care for a pet, consider the duration of the arrangement, the level of care required and the potential impact on your daily life.
It's crucial to discuss and agree upon responsibilities, such as feeding, exercise, and veterinary care, to ensure the pet receives proper attention. Set a specific timeline for when the pet will be returned to its owner, and make sure you're both on the same page.
You need to be honest about your capabilities and limitations to avoid burnout or stress. If needed, consider alternative solutions, such as co-care or pet boarding facilities.
OP and her partner had graciously taken in their friend's pet bird while he dealt with some tough family issues. Initially, it was supposed to be a short-term arrangement, but as weeks were running out, OP's patience began to wear thin.
Despite her clear disdain for birds and the understanding that she'd only watch the bird as a favor, the friend seemed to be taking advantage of their kindness.
The bird's constant screaming, biting and mess-making had become unbearable, and OP was at her wit's end. She had to finally gave him an ultimatum and you can read all about it as you scroll down.
The OP writes...
The OP has become sick of the cleaning up bird crap, the screaming and biting of the animal
He became huffy and told the OP he needs more time than two weeks
The OP stated that she is loosing her mind about the bird and she wants it gone
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:
I get that friend has been dealing with a lot of stuff with so many family members dying, and I don't want to add stress on someone who is already going through so much. So yelling at him makes me feel like an AH.
Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say about the story
The OP is making it sound like it's been months
Why can't he take his bird along?
The OP should have some compassion
The OP left a quick edit saying...
It was originally states that we'd have it for like 2 weeks, it has now been going on a little over a month. Friend is out of state, he dealing with one family members death and pretty much the moment he got back home another family member passed and was back out. He often helps with the estates and stuff since he has some type estate training so he's typically first in and last out to make sure everything is squared away.
The comments continues...
He is taking advantage of the OP
It should be the partner's responsibility
He obviously abandoned his pet
OP's patience had worn thin, and she was resolute about finding a solution for the bird. Despite her partner's concerns about his friend's feelings, OP stood firm, refusing to let the bird become a permanent fixture in their home.
With a clear plan in place, OP was determined to see it through, even if it meant following through on her threat to send the bird to a sanctuary. She had done her part to help her partner's friend in need, and now it was time for someone else to step in and take responsibility.
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