A Groom Yelled At His Sister For Missing His Wedding Because Her Cat Of 19 Years Died The Same Day
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For this groom, that person was his sister. OP is 28 years old and the constant person in his life has always been his sister.
She was the only member of his immediate family that he invited to his wedding. OP explained that most of his family members are homophobic and he has no contact with them.
His ardent supporter has always been his older sister. As a matter of fact, she was actively involved in the planning process leading up to their big day.
She was a reliable rock for OP but a personal issue came up when one of her senior cats fell ill a week before the wedding. This cat has been her sister's pet for 19 years and loves the cat like her child.
OP's sister was upfront and told OP that if her cat's health declines further, she won't be able to make it to the wedding. OP heard her but he dismissed it since the elderly cat survived health scares previously.
On the day of his wedding, OP got a tearful call from his sister. She informed him that she had to put down her cat, so she won't be able to attend the wedding.
OP flipped out and asked her if she was "going to put her cat dying over her only brother getting married."
He asked if she was really going to leave him without a family at his own wedding then proceeded to hang up. She didn't attend the wedding and they haven't spoken since.
Redditors did not shy away from calling out OP's dismissal of his sister's grief
Having a childhood pet grow up with you for 19 years is nothing to brush over...
... sure OP's sister could have attended the wedding but that wouldn't accomplish OP's wish to have everyone's attention on their ceremony
OP did call his sister's cat "that thing" which can clue you in what OP thinks about his sister's pet
Did OP realize how awfully he reacted when he read these concise points?
Putting down an elderly and/or sickly pet is a kindness but that does not make it easy nor does it do anything for comfort
It's understandable that emotions were running high that day but OP could have handled things more maturely instead, he yelled at his sister while she was grieving the passing of a friend
OP's sister warned him about this scenario happening but he dismissed that...
... when what she feared happened, he attacked her. That's not how you treat the people you love.
OP's sister probably felt doubly bad that day; she couldn't attend her only brother's wedding that she helped to plan and she lost a beloved pet. That was not an easy day and OP could have been kinder.
A commenter sided with OP and said that while they will be devastated by the death of a pet, they wouldn't miss their only sibling's wedding because of it
This very reasonable question was posted in response
A lone commenter said that everyone handled the situation poorly and all of them were at fault for how things played out
If OP apologizes to his sister sincerely, they may be able to repair their damaged relationship
In the end, the replies telling OP that he was an a**hole outnumbered the ones that didn't
If you were OP's sister, would you have missed your only brother's wedding because of your grief knowing that you were his only family in attendance? If you were in OP's position, how would you have handled your sister's tearful call informing you she won't make it to your wedding because her cat died?
We understand why OP was hurt over his sister missing the wedding but we also understand how deep his sister's grief was. One thing we know for sure, OP shouldn't cut ties with his sister just yet; their relationship can still be salvaged if they communicate.